Atherton Drenth, CBP

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Atherton Drenth is the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. She is also a contributing author to the Amazon Best Selling book, 365 Moments of Grace. Atherton has been featured on several radio shows, is a guest blogger at Ask Dr. Nandi and is a regular contributing editor for the Paradigm Pages Newsletter. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

Atherton is a Clairvoyant, Medical Intuitive and Holistic Energy Practitioner facilitating transformational healing for her clients. She has been extensively trained and certified as a Medical Intuitive and Holistic Energy Practitioner. She has been in private practice since 2000. She is also a compassionate teacher committed to helping others develop their full intuitive potential through yearly workshops. She has a private practice in Guelph, Ontario.
www.athertondrenth.com
www.paradigmcentre.com

7 Mar 20
421 Woolwich Street, Guelph, ON, Canada
7 Mar 20
421 Woolwich Street, Guelph, ON, Canada

Podcast this evening at 9 pm EST on Surn Radio

Hope you can join us.

Omshree Sidha Hospital

          Multispeciality Ayurveda Hospital & Research Center

Omshree Sidha Hospital has effective Ayurveda treatment for Asthma, 80% patients can leave the inhaler in the first day of our treatment itself, 95% patients will be cured in 1 to 3 months time. In case of Psoriasis, itching will come down in 2-3 days and your affected skin will become like normal skin in 3 to 6 months time. In case of Eczema, Itching Patches of skin, redness, cracks, and roughness will disappear in 1 to 3 months time; skin will regain the natural skin color. Heart blocks can be removed without any surgery or angioplasty  in 3 to 6 months time, Spondylosis (Cervical & Lumbar) in 3 to 4 weeks time we will remove the pain and gives flexibility. No more pain. Osteoarthritis (knee pain) can be treated without any surgery, no pain, full flexibility in 3 to 4 weeks time.  Best treatment for Rheumatoid arthritis, swelling and pain will disappear in 3 to 4 weeks time, gets flexibility.IBS, Migraine, Sinusitis, Varicose etc… will be cured in very short time.

For more info Call/Whatsapp :  Mob: +91 9846992789,

Phone:+914822229435 Email: info@omshreeayur.com

Website:http://www.omshreeayur.com/

Please share this information; it may be useful for you, or your near and dear ones. You can help them.

With so much happening on the planet at this time, it is difficult to discern what is truth. Milada Sakic, an astrologer that I have been following for some time had this to say:

“We will be craving more silence and stillness in the next four weeks. Purpose? To refine our spiritual discernment tools.

It is important that you create time for the spontaneous nudges to unplug in this very noisy 3 Universal Year (The Year of Mindfulness).

(The year that encouraged clarifying our message, establishing our platform and amplifying our impact).

2019 is also the year of highest coherence. As a result, we have been more aware and discerning of the information that is incoherent, incongruent to love, truth and integrity, or simply false (e.g. rambling, looping, inauthenticity, propaganda, scripted news with a clear spin or a biased agenda, mind control).”[1]

If you are looking for tools to help you during this time of developing more discernment may I suggest practicing the Vertical Axis at least once a day. This very powerful grounding tool takes only a few minutes a day. It can help you to maintain your perspective. It will remind you to breathe. It will teach you how to stay connected to the inner universal divine even during this crazy time of uncertainty.

The universal divine is always striving to help us overcome the obstacles we create for ourselves. We are being reminded that in the stillness we shall overcome the chaos. One breath at a time.

You are divinely loved. You are divinely guided. Be still and know God.

Here is a link to the audio version of the Vertical Axis:

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

 

[1] Milada Sakic: https://www.miladasakic.com/

 

There is nothing more deadly than to be told by an old friend that you have changed! It is often said with a subtle hint of despair in their voice or with a look of outright disgust. Hearing those words spoken by a dear friend can leave you reeling, and heart broken.

But what if it is a good thing?

Change is hard enough but when YOU change who you are, well that is a totally different ballgame. Women in particular find it scary to change. They fret about losing dear friends, afraid that they will never make new ones.

We forget that at one time, our old friends were once new friends.

If you have decided to journey inward to try and find your own authencity, then emotional change will be inevitable. As you change you also grow into a new way of being. You need to take care of her and be tender and understanding. Doing this deep emotional work means you are giving yourself permission to peel back the layers of what you think you should be. The shields and capes of pretending to be what everybody else wants or needs you to be no longer serves the true you. The real you.

This process of inner change and awareness can be scary and lonely. When I was going through this process, I realized that I was shedding layers of ego that no longer served me. I was discovering a whole new person underneath it all. And I liked her. When my friends started to say that I had changed and they didn’t know who I was anymore, I was thrilled. It meant the changes were showing on the outside. I was taking what I was learning about myself and incorporating it into my life. That was a good thing. A positive step forward. As lonely as it was, I decided to celebrate it. Embrace it. Revel in it.

And then I started to meet other women who had taken the same inward spiritual journey. They shared their stories of how they travelled this path into personal awareness. What a relief to discover that my new friends understood the journey. It gave me courage to continue following through with the changes I too was experiencing.

Please know that if you too are going through these deep personal changes that you are not alone. If the journey feels difficult and intense recognize it as shedding layers of your ego that no longer serve you. As you embrace and embody this new you, there will be other amazing women friends waiting for you on the other side. They will find you.

Embrace the change. Celebrate it. Love the new you – you have waited a lifetime to meet her.

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant, medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

Spring and the weathering of relationships

At our office, we have a whiteboard in the kitchen where we leave each other notes and updates. Around the beginning of March, someone wrote on our communal whiteboard that Spring was just around the corner. What followed that comment over the next few weeks became quite amusing for all of us. Every day someone would add an additional comment. It developed into this entertaining ongoing dialogue that ran down the whiteboard like a script from a play that varied from hope to skepticism. As Canadians, we love to talk about the weather and take it all in stride, but I loved how everyone just intuitively got into the act. That lead me to think about relationships and what makes them work.

Clients often ask me what does it take to have a healthy, long-term relationship? How do you know when you have found the one? Like the running commentary at the Centre about the impending arrival of Spring, we all have thoughts and feelings about what a healthy relationship should be like. There are, of course, a million different opinions. Only the individual can intuit what is right for them but a few guidelines to consider when you are in the early stages of a new relationship certainly doesn’t hurt.

Personally, I think Barak Obama said it the best when he was asked, how do you know when you have found the “one”. His response was absolutely brilliant and nailed it in three simple statements. One: do they make you laugh? Two: can you talk to them about anything, any time? Three: do you see this person as being a good parent to your children?

I think it also highlights another very important consideration – can you be a team that works together and support each other dreams, goals, and aspirations. I have witnessed a lot of relationships fail over the years because of a lack of teamwork, shared goals and mutual support.

When I first met my husband, he had just started a new job that he was very proud to have secured. A couple of the job requirements was being on call 24/7 and travelling around the country. In the early days of our relationship, filled that first blush and bliss of love I said nothing. But eventually, after a few weeks, it dawned on me that we were having to do an awful lot of rescheduling because he had been called out at the last minute. I realized I needed to say something, so I spoke up.

I remember him looking at me and saying very calmly. This is the job. My job. If this isn’t going to work for you then we are done. I was shocked! Devastated! Furious! How dare he talk to me like that! I stormed out in tears and went home crying to my mother.

Arriving home sobbing, my mother waited until I had calmed down and after I shared what had happened she asked me what did I expect? I didn’t know. I wanted him to be around all the time, I guessed. She very wisely said well if that is what you need and expect then you are lucky he is being so clear, and you need to decide what is right for you otherwise this relationship is founded on false expectations that will only poison your love.

God, how I hated the clarity of that statement from her. But she was right.

The writing was on the wall. Was this the right relationship for me or not? My mom talked to me about how, in her opinion, a relationship was like a business where you go to work together every day. You could either get along and help each other out or you could always be picking at each other and be in a constant state of irritation which only results in conflict and unhappiness.

It forced me to really think about what I wanted in a partner. What I needed, expected and hoped for in my life.

On our very first date even though we came from completely different backgrounds we could talk about anything and everything. And we talked all night long, about everything! We laughed at all the same things and if we found ourselves disagreeing about a subject it was heard and honoured with respect. I thought about all of those things and I could see how we could be a team. Our conversations and the qualities that he displayed over the following weeks helped me to see what a good father he could be. As I thought about his job and our relationship long term I could see it would give me what I needed more than anything else. To be independent. My mother called that “building and creating a solid foundation”. I went back.

Over the next few months, we talked frankly about our future and started to see how we could make things work. It wasn’t forced or manipulated. It was supportive, respectful. Now don’t get me wrong sometimes we could both be infuriating but we could see the humour in it. Making it work was easy because we stayed open, honest and clear and didn’t put each other down.

Now forty years later I can look back and see how we grew and managed to build up from that firm foundation. We were a team.

Like the conversation on the whiteboard at the office, everyone played along as part of the team. It was easy. It evolved and flowed naturally with humour and respect despite our different viewpoints about whether Spring was ever going to arrive or not. Life is like that when it is the right fit. Then you know you have found “the one.”

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

A short time ago I was driving across town and thinking about my kids. They are all grown up now and have moved away. Their lives are in full swing with jobs, babies and the obligations that are a natural result of living. I was thinking about how much I miss them and yet how lucky we were that the kids were leading happy successful lives, each in their own way. The sadness I felt at that moment reduced me to tears.

Life is funny, isn’t it? I can vividly remember those days when my husband and I were in the middle of raising our kids and juggling careers. Even a few moments of peace and quiet were dreamed of and coveted. How often I found myself wishing if I could only have a day to myself without any demands or expectations from anybody, what sheer bliss that would be.

It only feels like it was yesterday.

Now my husband and I have all the time in the world. We talk and reminisce about those days and how we worried about their welfare and the mortgage at the same time. Hoping and praying that it would all work out. Wondering out loud if we would get them successfully launched out into the world.

That’s when it dawned on me intuitively, we were no longer relevant to our children. They were doing exactly what they should be doing. They are living their lives and raising a family. We have faded into the background.

I felt guilty then. I should be happy that the kids are happy, right?

Yes and no.

Truth be told I miss the chaos. I miss the flap of running around and keeping the household on schedule, meals, homework, programs and activities. I miss the noise of having the kids and all their friends dropping in. I miss waking up on the weekends and making a million pancakes for all the kids that slept over. Believe me, there were a lot of kids. I miss sitting together at dinner laughing, sometimes arguing, my husband helping the kids with homework, while I cleaned up. The silence around the house has become deafening.

It dawned on me then that we had done the same thing to our parents. We became so busy living that we forgot about them. Now I understood my mother-in-law insistence that we come for a visit once a month. It annoyed me because it was just one more thing added to the list, but we respected her wishes. My parents, on the other hand, never called or asked for anything. That annoyed me too. It made me feel as though we didn’t matter anymore. What I didn’t understand was that they too were struggling with this same awareness of no longer being relevant to us.

That really dropped deep into my soul.

A few weeks ago, I was sharing this little insight with a friend when she mentioned that she was going through the same thing. She had written a poem about it. She has very graciously agreed to share it in my article. You will find it below.

These little emotional vignettes we go through are breakthroughs in conscious awareness. They are important. Yes, they are painful but just think how it changes your perspective of things.

On the one hand, I believe it is important to let our children go. They have to grow up sometime and it should be on your watch.  On the other hand, I had someone say to me once that her children had the audacity to do exactly what she expected of them. They grew up and became independent. We laughed for a long time about that. It makes you feel pissed off and happy at the same time, doesn’t it?

Having said that, however, I am of the opinion that it wouldn’t hurt for the little cherubs to call home once in a while. I tell my kids we won’t call you, but it would be nice if you called us every few weeks to make sure we are still alive. I think that is fair and so far, that seems to be working.

Maybe it is time for you to give your parents a call. Say thank you and let them know that they still matter. Your children are listening.

 

Becoming Irrelevant

By Margo Kendall

They don’t tell you about

this part of motherhood-

The part where you become totally irrelevant

To your children.

 

You stop waiting for the calls

and invitations

that have stopped coming.

Their lives are busy –

hunting and gathering so that

more stuff can accumulate

more courses taken

more trips enjoyed.

Their lives are busy and exhausting

with kids and jobs and just living –

there is no time

for coffee with mom

or long chats over dinner.

 

Their absence in your life

is so, so painful –

But what is there to say?

If their time is not

a gift freely given

why would you want

to be pencilled in

to their busy schedules?

 

Let it go

Let them go

Your role as mother is well and truly over.

Love them from afar-

Send them wished for

health and happiness

and know that

when they are old

and if they become irrelevant

They will finally understand…your silence.

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.
www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

 

 

 

 You are no longer relevant

A short time ago I was driving across town and thinking about my kids. They are all grown up now and have moved away. Their lives are in full swing with jobs, babies and the obligations that are a natural result of living. I was thinking about how much I miss them and yet how lucky we were that the kids were leading happy successful lives, each in their own way. The sadness I felt at that moment reduced me to tears.

Life is funny, isn’t it? I can vividly remember those days when my husband and I were in the middle of raising our kids and juggling careers. Even a few moments of peace and quiet were dreamed of and coveted. How often I found myself wishing if I could only have a day to myself without any demands or expectations from anybody, what sheer bliss that would be.

It only feels like it was yesterday.

Now my husband and I have all the time in the world. We talk and reminisce about those days and how we worried about their welfare and the mortgage at the same time. Hoping and praying that it would all work out. Wondering out loud if we would get them successfully launched out into the world.

That’s when it dawned on me intuitively, we were no longer relevant to our children. They were doing exactly what they should be doing. They are living their lives and raising a family. We have faded into the background.

I felt guilty then. I should be happy that the kids are happy, right?

Yes and no.

Truth be told I miss the chaos. I miss the flap of running around and keeping the household on schedule, meals, homework, programs and activities. I miss the noise of having the kids and all their friends dropping in. I miss waking up on the weekends and making a million pancakes for all the kids that slept over. Believe me, there were a lot of kids. I miss sitting together at dinner laughing, sometimes arguing, my husband helping the kids with homework, while I cleaned up. The silence around the house has become deafening.

It dawned on me then that we had done the same thing to our parents. We became so busy living that we forgot about them. Now I understood my mother-in-law insistence that we come for a visit once a month. It annoyed me because it was just one more thing added to the list, but we respected her wishes. My parents, on the other hand, never called or asked for anything. That annoyed me too. It made me feel as though we didn’t matter anymore. What I didn’t understand was that they too were struggling with this same awareness of no longer being relevant to us.

That really dropped deep into my soul.

A few weeks ago, I was sharing this little insight with a friend when she mentioned that she was going through the same thing. She had written a poem about it. She has very graciously agreed to share it in the newsletter. You will find it below.

These little emotional vignettes we go through are breakthroughs in conscious awareness. They are important. Yes, they are painful but just think how it changes your perspective of things.

On the one hand I believe it is important to let our children go. They have to grow up sometime and it should be on your watch.  On the other hand, I had someone say to me once that her children had the audacity to do exactly what she expected of them. They grew up and became independent. We laughed for a long time about that. It makes you feel pissed off and happy at the same time, doesn’t it?

Having said that, however, I am of the opinion that it wouldn’t hurt for the little cherubs to call home once in awhile. I tell my kids we won’t call you, but it would be nice if you called us every few weeks to make sure we are still alive. I think that is fair and so far, that seems to be working.

Maybe it is time for you to give your parents a call. Say thank you and let them know that they still matter. Your children are listening.

Becoming Irrelevant
By Margo Kendall

They don’t tell you about
this part of motherhood-
The part where you become totally irrelevant
To your children.

You stop waiting for the calls
and invitations
that have stopped coming.
Their lives are busy –
hunting and gathering so that
more stuff can accumulate
more courses taken
more trips enjoyed.
Their lives are busy and exhausting
with kids and jobs and just living –
there is no time
for coffee with mom
or long chats over dinner.

Their absence in your life
is so, so painful –
But what is there to say?
If their time is not
a gift freely given
why would you want
to be pencilled in
to their busy schedules?

Let it go
Let them go
Your role as mother is well and truly over.
Love them from afar-
Send them wished for
health and happiness
and know that
when they are old
and if they become irrelevant
They will finally understand…your silence.

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7 Mar 20
421 Woolwich Street, Guelph, ON, Canada
7 Mar 20
421 Woolwich Street, Guelph, ON, Canada

Podcast this evening at 9 pm EST on Surn Radio

Hope you can join us.

Omshree Sidha Hospital

          Multispeciality Ayurveda Hospital & Research Center

Omshree Sidha Hospital has effective Ayurveda treatment for Asthma, 80% patients can leave the inhaler in the first day of our treatment itself, 95% patients will be cured in 1 to 3 months time. In case of Psoriasis, itching will come down in 2-3 days and your affected skin will become like normal skin in 3 to 6 months time. In case of Eczema, Itching Patches of skin, redness, cracks, and roughness will disappear in 1 to 3 months time; skin will regain the natural skin color. Heart blocks can be removed without any surgery or angioplasty  in 3 to 6 months time, Spondylosis (Cervical & Lumbar) in 3 to 4 weeks time we will remove the pain and gives flexibility. No more pain. Osteoarthritis (knee pain) can be treated without any surgery, no pain, full flexibility in 3 to 4 weeks time.  Best treatment for Rheumatoid arthritis, swelling and pain will disappear in 3 to 4 weeks time, gets flexibility.IBS, Migraine, Sinusitis, Varicose etc… will be cured in very short time.

For more info Call/Whatsapp :  Mob: +91 9846992789,

Phone:+914822229435 Email: info@omshreeayur.com

Website:http://www.omshreeayur.com/

Please share this information; it may be useful for you, or your near and dear ones. You can help them.

With so much happening on the planet at this time, it is difficult to discern what is truth. Milada Sakic, an astrologer that I have been following for some time had this to say:

“We will be craving more silence and stillness in the next four weeks. Purpose? To refine our spiritual discernment tools.

It is important that you create time for the spontaneous nudges to unplug in this very noisy 3 Universal Year (The Year of Mindfulness).

(The year that encouraged clarifying our message, establishing our platform and amplifying our impact).

2019 is also the year of highest coherence. As a result, we have been more aware and discerning of the information that is incoherent, incongruent to love, truth and integrity, or simply false (e.g. rambling, looping, inauthenticity, propaganda, scripted news with a clear spin or a biased agenda, mind control).”[1]

If you are looking for tools to help you during this time of developing more discernment may I suggest practicing the Vertical Axis at least once a day. This very powerful grounding tool takes only a few minutes a day. It can help you to maintain your perspective. It will remind you to breathe. It will teach you how to stay connected to the inner universal divine even during this crazy time of uncertainty.

The universal divine is always striving to help us overcome the obstacles we create for ourselves. We are being reminded that in the stillness we shall overcome the chaos. One breath at a time.

You are divinely loved. You are divinely guided. Be still and know God.

Here is a link to the audio version of the Vertical Axis:

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

 

[1] Milada Sakic: https://www.miladasakic.com/

 

There is nothing more deadly than to be told by an old friend that you have changed! It is often said with a subtle hint of despair in their voice or with a look of outright disgust. Hearing those words spoken by a dear friend can leave you reeling, and heart broken.

But what if it is a good thing?

Change is hard enough but when YOU change who you are, well that is a totally different ballgame. Women in particular find it scary to change. They fret about losing dear friends, afraid that they will never make new ones.

We forget that at one time, our old friends were once new friends.

If you have decided to journey inward to try and find your own authencity, then emotional change will be inevitable. As you change you also grow into a new way of being. You need to take care of her and be tender and understanding. Doing this deep emotional work means you are giving yourself permission to peel back the layers of what you think you should be. The shields and capes of pretending to be what everybody else wants or needs you to be no longer serves the true you. The real you.

This process of inner change and awareness can be scary and lonely. When I was going through this process, I realized that I was shedding layers of ego that no longer served me. I was discovering a whole new person underneath it all. And I liked her. When my friends started to say that I had changed and they didn’t know who I was anymore, I was thrilled. It meant the changes were showing on the outside. I was taking what I was learning about myself and incorporating it into my life. That was a good thing. A positive step forward. As lonely as it was, I decided to celebrate it. Embrace it. Revel in it.

And then I started to meet other women who had taken the same inward spiritual journey. They shared their stories of how they travelled this path into personal awareness. What a relief to discover that my new friends understood the journey. It gave me courage to continue following through with the changes I too was experiencing.

Please know that if you too are going through these deep personal changes that you are not alone. If the journey feels difficult and intense recognize it as shedding layers of your ego that no longer serve you. As you embrace and embody this new you, there will be other amazing women friends waiting for you on the other side. They will find you.

Embrace the change. Celebrate it. Love the new you – you have waited a lifetime to meet her.

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant, medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

Spring and the weathering of relationships

At our office, we have a whiteboard in the kitchen where we leave each other notes and updates. Around the beginning of March, someone wrote on our communal whiteboard that Spring was just around the corner. What followed that comment over the next few weeks became quite amusing for all of us. Every day someone would add an additional comment. It developed into this entertaining ongoing dialogue that ran down the whiteboard like a script from a play that varied from hope to skepticism. As Canadians, we love to talk about the weather and take it all in stride, but I loved how everyone just intuitively got into the act. That lead me to think about relationships and what makes them work.

Clients often ask me what does it take to have a healthy, long-term relationship? How do you know when you have found the one? Like the running commentary at the Centre about the impending arrival of Spring, we all have thoughts and feelings about what a healthy relationship should be like. There are, of course, a million different opinions. Only the individual can intuit what is right for them but a few guidelines to consider when you are in the early stages of a new relationship certainly doesn’t hurt.

Personally, I think Barak Obama said it the best when he was asked, how do you know when you have found the “one”. His response was absolutely brilliant and nailed it in three simple statements. One: do they make you laugh? Two: can you talk to them about anything, any time? Three: do you see this person as being a good parent to your children?

I think it also highlights another very important consideration – can you be a team that works together and support each other dreams, goals, and aspirations. I have witnessed a lot of relationships fail over the years because of a lack of teamwork, shared goals and mutual support.

When I first met my husband, he had just started a new job that he was very proud to have secured. A couple of the job requirements was being on call 24/7 and travelling around the country. In the early days of our relationship, filled that first blush and bliss of love I said nothing. But eventually, after a few weeks, it dawned on me that we were having to do an awful lot of rescheduling because he had been called out at the last minute. I realized I needed to say something, so I spoke up.

I remember him looking at me and saying very calmly. This is the job. My job. If this isn’t going to work for you then we are done. I was shocked! Devastated! Furious! How dare he talk to me like that! I stormed out in tears and went home crying to my mother.

Arriving home sobbing, my mother waited until I had calmed down and after I shared what had happened she asked me what did I expect? I didn’t know. I wanted him to be around all the time, I guessed. She very wisely said well if that is what you need and expect then you are lucky he is being so clear, and you need to decide what is right for you otherwise this relationship is founded on false expectations that will only poison your love.

God, how I hated the clarity of that statement from her. But she was right.

The writing was on the wall. Was this the right relationship for me or not? My mom talked to me about how, in her opinion, a relationship was like a business where you go to work together every day. You could either get along and help each other out or you could always be picking at each other and be in a constant state of irritation which only results in conflict and unhappiness.

It forced me to really think about what I wanted in a partner. What I needed, expected and hoped for in my life.

On our very first date even though we came from completely different backgrounds we could talk about anything and everything. And we talked all night long, about everything! We laughed at all the same things and if we found ourselves disagreeing about a subject it was heard and honoured with respect. I thought about all of those things and I could see how we could be a team. Our conversations and the qualities that he displayed over the following weeks helped me to see what a good father he could be. As I thought about his job and our relationship long term I could see it would give me what I needed more than anything else. To be independent. My mother called that “building and creating a solid foundation”. I went back.

Over the next few months, we talked frankly about our future and started to see how we could make things work. It wasn’t forced or manipulated. It was supportive, respectful. Now don’t get me wrong sometimes we could both be infuriating but we could see the humour in it. Making it work was easy because we stayed open, honest and clear and didn’t put each other down.

Now forty years later I can look back and see how we grew and managed to build up from that firm foundation. We were a team.

Like the conversation on the whiteboard at the office, everyone played along as part of the team. It was easy. It evolved and flowed naturally with humour and respect despite our different viewpoints about whether Spring was ever going to arrive or not. Life is like that when it is the right fit. Then you know you have found “the one.”

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

A short time ago I was driving across town and thinking about my kids. They are all grown up now and have moved away. Their lives are in full swing with jobs, babies and the obligations that are a natural result of living. I was thinking about how much I miss them and yet how lucky we were that the kids were leading happy successful lives, each in their own way. The sadness I felt at that moment reduced me to tears.

Life is funny, isn’t it? I can vividly remember those days when my husband and I were in the middle of raising our kids and juggling careers. Even a few moments of peace and quiet were dreamed of and coveted. How often I found myself wishing if I could only have a day to myself without any demands or expectations from anybody, what sheer bliss that would be.

It only feels like it was yesterday.

Now my husband and I have all the time in the world. We talk and reminisce about those days and how we worried about their welfare and the mortgage at the same time. Hoping and praying that it would all work out. Wondering out loud if we would get them successfully launched out into the world.

That’s when it dawned on me intuitively, we were no longer relevant to our children. They were doing exactly what they should be doing. They are living their lives and raising a family. We have faded into the background.

I felt guilty then. I should be happy that the kids are happy, right?

Yes and no.

Truth be told I miss the chaos. I miss the flap of running around and keeping the household on schedule, meals, homework, programs and activities. I miss the noise of having the kids and all their friends dropping in. I miss waking up on the weekends and making a million pancakes for all the kids that slept over. Believe me, there were a lot of kids. I miss sitting together at dinner laughing, sometimes arguing, my husband helping the kids with homework, while I cleaned up. The silence around the house has become deafening.

It dawned on me then that we had done the same thing to our parents. We became so busy living that we forgot about them. Now I understood my mother-in-law insistence that we come for a visit once a month. It annoyed me because it was just one more thing added to the list, but we respected her wishes. My parents, on the other hand, never called or asked for anything. That annoyed me too. It made me feel as though we didn’t matter anymore. What I didn’t understand was that they too were struggling with this same awareness of no longer being relevant to us.

That really dropped deep into my soul.

A few weeks ago, I was sharing this little insight with a friend when she mentioned that she was going through the same thing. She had written a poem about it. She has very graciously agreed to share it in my article. You will find it below.

These little emotional vignettes we go through are breakthroughs in conscious awareness. They are important. Yes, they are painful but just think how it changes your perspective of things.

On the one hand, I believe it is important to let our children go. They have to grow up sometime and it should be on your watch.  On the other hand, I had someone say to me once that her children had the audacity to do exactly what she expected of them. They grew up and became independent. We laughed for a long time about that. It makes you feel pissed off and happy at the same time, doesn’t it?

Having said that, however, I am of the opinion that it wouldn’t hurt for the little cherubs to call home once in a while. I tell my kids we won’t call you, but it would be nice if you called us every few weeks to make sure we are still alive. I think that is fair and so far, that seems to be working.

Maybe it is time for you to give your parents a call. Say thank you and let them know that they still matter. Your children are listening.

 

Becoming Irrelevant

By Margo Kendall

They don’t tell you about

this part of motherhood-

The part where you become totally irrelevant

To your children.

 

You stop waiting for the calls

and invitations

that have stopped coming.

Their lives are busy –

hunting and gathering so that

more stuff can accumulate

more courses taken

more trips enjoyed.

Their lives are busy and exhausting

with kids and jobs and just living –

there is no time

for coffee with mom

or long chats over dinner.

 

Their absence in your life

is so, so painful –

But what is there to say?

If their time is not

a gift freely given

why would you want

to be pencilled in

to their busy schedules?

 

Let it go

Let them go

Your role as mother is well and truly over.

Love them from afar-

Send them wished for

health and happiness

and know that

when they are old

and if they become irrelevant

They will finally understand…your silence.

 

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.
www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

 

 

 

 You are no longer relevant

A short time ago I was driving across town and thinking about my kids. They are all grown up now and have moved away. Their lives are in full swing with jobs, babies and the obligations that are a natural result of living. I was thinking about how much I miss them and yet how lucky we were that the kids were leading happy successful lives, each in their own way. The sadness I felt at that moment reduced me to tears.

Life is funny, isn’t it? I can vividly remember those days when my husband and I were in the middle of raising our kids and juggling careers. Even a few moments of peace and quiet were dreamed of and coveted. How often I found myself wishing if I could only have a day to myself without any demands or expectations from anybody, what sheer bliss that would be.

It only feels like it was yesterday.

Now my husband and I have all the time in the world. We talk and reminisce about those days and how we worried about their welfare and the mortgage at the same time. Hoping and praying that it would all work out. Wondering out loud if we would get them successfully launched out into the world.

That’s when it dawned on me intuitively, we were no longer relevant to our children. They were doing exactly what they should be doing. They are living their lives and raising a family. We have faded into the background.

I felt guilty then. I should be happy that the kids are happy, right?

Yes and no.

Truth be told I miss the chaos. I miss the flap of running around and keeping the household on schedule, meals, homework, programs and activities. I miss the noise of having the kids and all their friends dropping in. I miss waking up on the weekends and making a million pancakes for all the kids that slept over. Believe me, there were a lot of kids. I miss sitting together at dinner laughing, sometimes arguing, my husband helping the kids with homework, while I cleaned up. The silence around the house has become deafening.

It dawned on me then that we had done the same thing to our parents. We became so busy living that we forgot about them. Now I understood my mother-in-law insistence that we come for a visit once a month. It annoyed me because it was just one more thing added to the list, but we respected her wishes. My parents, on the other hand, never called or asked for anything. That annoyed me too. It made me feel as though we didn’t matter anymore. What I didn’t understand was that they too were struggling with this same awareness of no longer being relevant to us.

That really dropped deep into my soul.

A few weeks ago, I was sharing this little insight with a friend when she mentioned that she was going through the same thing. She had written a poem about it. She has very graciously agreed to share it in the newsletter. You will find it below.

These little emotional vignettes we go through are breakthroughs in conscious awareness. They are important. Yes, they are painful but just think how it changes your perspective of things.

On the one hand I believe it is important to let our children go. They have to grow up sometime and it should be on your watch.  On the other hand, I had someone say to me once that her children had the audacity to do exactly what she expected of them. They grew up and became independent. We laughed for a long time about that. It makes you feel pissed off and happy at the same time, doesn’t it?

Having said that, however, I am of the opinion that it wouldn’t hurt for the little cherubs to call home once in awhile. I tell my kids we won’t call you, but it would be nice if you called us every few weeks to make sure we are still alive. I think that is fair and so far, that seems to be working.

Maybe it is time for you to give your parents a call. Say thank you and let them know that they still matter. Your children are listening.

Becoming Irrelevant
By Margo Kendall

They don’t tell you about
this part of motherhood-
The part where you become totally irrelevant
To your children.

You stop waiting for the calls
and invitations
that have stopped coming.
Their lives are busy –
hunting and gathering so that
more stuff can accumulate
more courses taken
more trips enjoyed.
Their lives are busy and exhausting
with kids and jobs and just living –
there is no time
for coffee with mom
or long chats over dinner.

Their absence in your life
is so, so painful –
But what is there to say?
If their time is not
a gift freely given
why would you want
to be pencilled in
to their busy schedules?

Let it go
Let them go
Your role as mother is well and truly over.
Love them from afar-
Send them wished for
health and happiness
and know that
when they are old
and if they become irrelevant
They will finally understand…your silence.

Atherton Drenth is a clairvoyant medical intuitive and the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, (Llewellyn Worldwide) and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality.

www.athertondrenth.com

www.paradigmcentre.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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