Jackass, anyone?

Having a pain point doesn't mean other people have to adjust what they say and how they live to appease you.
 
Having a pain point means you learned something a long time ago that probably isn't still serving you, and you're being given an opportunity to address and release it so that you can grow into the fullest expression of who you really are, instead of the costumed collection of coping mechanisms you may be now...
 
Here's an example of a pain point we frequently see on social media..:
 
Someone says something along the lines of 'we create our own reality, we are in control of our emotions, perception is subjective etc etc.'
 
All common sentiments, all factually accurate.
Not all well-received by the masses.. ;)
 
A person who has struggled their whole life may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person with low emotional intelligence may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person who perceives that their safety exists in something outside of them (e.g. a job) may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
 
Some of these people may react. Some may troll, some may flat out rip you a new one... ;) Some may politely disagree citing 'evidence'.
 
If any of these people are ready to grow, the pain around the statement will cause them to say something to themselves along the lines of 'Why does this bother me? What does it threaten in me to consider this new perspective? How does it protect me to try and defend or justify what I've believed up until now?
And the kicker: 'If what I've believed up until now hasn't landed me the life of my dreams.. what might a new belief like this one bring about instead..?'
 
Someone who isn't ready to grow, will ask something closer to 'who does this unrealistic jackass think she is?!'
 
(Forgetting, ironically, that reality is inherently subjective and jackasses are inherently delightful - I met one at a petting zoo, once.)
 
Where I'm going with this, is that the author of the post does not control where the reader is in their journey, and therefore they cannot control the reception. They can only speak their truth as they know it, trusting that if it is coming through them at this particular time, someone needs to hear it, and the message will get to that person in divine time.
 
If you have been wanting to speak some truth for some time, but you are worried about the trolls, please know this.
 
You are important.
Your message is important.
80yo you would be very disappointed to look back on this opportunity to speak up and know that you allowed yourself to be silenced by a few keyboard warriors, slangin' poorly-spelled insults from their mom's basement.. ;)
 
And the big kahuna:
 
No-one who did anything important was universally liked.
 
There will be trolls.
Say it anyway.
 
Not everyone will understand.
Do what's in your heart anyway.
 
They might not like it.
Try it anyway.
 
They might not like you.
Be you anyway.
 
I love you,
Sarah
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