How's Your Waxer?

This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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