Ron Thompson CCHT

Ronald E. Thompson, ACCHT - Certified Hypnotherapist
Advanced Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist
When you first hear Ron's life story you can't help but admire him for his strength and courage to get through life every day with a smile on his face and a fantastic positive attitude even after all that he has endured in the last seven years of his life. He likes to joke that he's becoming just like the six million dollar man because of all that has been done to him medically in the last few years.

Over the years Ron has endured several amputations, and presently wears an above knee prosthesis on his right leg, and he's had a kidney transplant, and a cornea transplant along with cataract surgery . All that said you will never meet a more positive man.

It was during Ron's initial nine month stay in the hospital that he had a near death experience which altered his view of life. While he was recuperating in the hospital he met many people in much worse situations than himself that were dealing with severe emotional and mental problems additional to the obvious physical problems which brought them to hospital in the first place. Ron discovered that although hospitals can help you with the physical body they cannot repair what is wrong within a person's mind. This was the start of his journey into Hypnotherapy.

In the last four years Ron has successfully studied with a number of hypnotherapy institutes. He is his own testimonial as he discovered that through self-hypnosis he was capable of eliminating the phantom pains that he was experiencing from his leg amputation. This was a very exciting revelation to him and through this he has been driven to learn how to do more clinical hypnotherapy to help others like himself.

He was first certified through the Vancouver Island School of Hypnotherapy but felt he would like more training and so went on to receive his advanced clinical Hypnotherapy diploma through the New England Hypnotherapy Institute. Ron is also Certified by the American Clinical Hypnotherapy Institute and the international Board of professional Hypnotherapists.

Ron has a strong desire to share this knowledge and the ability to guide others with the process they need to make positive changes in their lives. Ron is dedicated to helping people change the negative to the positive and to help clients enhance and grow in life through hypnotherapy. Ron is a qualified and experienced hypnotherapist and can help you to become more relaxed, confident, and fulfilled in order to live the life you've always dreamed of.

Ron's professional attitude and compassion ensure that his clients receive the highest level of attention and care. Ron is a passionate and a patient Hypnotherapist with a firsthand knowledge of the day to day issues of life and the help needed to move forward.

Contact Ron @the Nanaimo Hypnotherapy Center 

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Do you live with or work with a Control Freak?
"It's my way or the highway!" I wouldn’t do it that way. Why don’t you try this? What are you doing? That’s not right. Don’t do that. Do this.
Has anyone ever said this to you?
While the phrase has become slightly too cliché to be used everyday, the sentiment certainly permeates much of modern life.
It can be difficult to work with, or live with, someone who is overly controlling.
Mainly because they don't see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right.
Whether it's asking you to tidy things up in a certain way, or micromanaging you to the point where you feel like you can't express your own opinions, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.


There are three things that make up a control freak:
1. Lack of Confidence
2. Trust Issues
3. Superiority Complex

To learn how to handle these types of people, it's important to look at the psychology behind why they are the way they are .
Managing The Micromanager
So how do you deal with control freaks? If you can’t avoid them, there are a few ways to minimize their damage:
1..If you’re dealing with a bullying type of control freak in a family/friend situation, leave. There is no obligation for you to stay and have to endure verbal abuse. No amount of turkey, sad-faced grandma, holiday guilt, or years of friendship, should induce you to put up with that behavior. Every time this person raises their voice or tries to bait you into an altercation, remove yourself from the situation. If they are unwilling to change, make that removal permanent.
2..If it is a work situation, it can be trickier. If the bully is your boss, report their behavior to Human Resources (if such a department exists). It may feel like you’re giving into them, but start to look for another job; after all, while HR may step in or document the situation, it could be a long time before that person is removed or you can transfer to a different department.
3.. If you’re dealing with a manipulator, like a co-worker or friend, just keep reiterating your needs and saying no. Practice saying no every morning in a mirror if you must, but say it. No is your weapon in fighting off their underhanded tactics and asserting yourself.
4… Don’t sweat the small stuff. As much as it may pain you to do so, let them have their little wins. If it’s something that doesn’t really matter that much, you are probably better off relinquishing your control and letting them have it. Save your assertive “no” for those times when you have a strong preference to do something on your terms. Otherwise, you risk a never-ending argument.
5.. Don’t take their controlling behavior personally; it is a character flaw of theirs that can have one of many different causes. It does not reflect on you, your character, or your abilities; chances are they are like this with everybody. It is not a personal attack on you, but rather a coping mechanism they employ; albeit a rather testing one.
6…Don’t fight them or try to change them – this will only lead to an escalation as they seek to assert their dominance over you. Instead, save your own sanity by accepting the situation and either leaving, as suggested above, or detaching yourself emotionally from their incessant orders, demands, and criticisms.
7.. Make suggestions and add your individual flair, but be prepared for them to be rejected outright. Take a gentle approach and ask them what they think of your ideas rather than just implementing them without any consultation (which they would consider an aggressive attempt to undermine them). This way you can stroke their ego and make them feel like they have control, while still playing an active, rather than passive, role in the situation.
8.. The best tip I can offer is, above all, try and remain calm. Allowing yourself to get upset just adds kindling to their fire. When you respond calmly, you limit their power over you. Part of being a control freak is about getting a reaction; they enjoy the feeling of power and being in control. If they aren’t able to bully or manipulate you, they can no longer control you and they will move on to another target.
It’s time for you to take back control, from the control freak.
How to handle them
And thankfully there are things you can do to make being around these people more bearable.
1. Give them advance warning of changes
A control freak takes time to get used to unexpected transitions. Give them as much time as possible to alter their expectations and find the resources to deal with the new situation.
2. Don't try to control them
Arguing with a control freak rarely works - they have spent their lives working on being right, and telling them what to do will only make them more disagreeable.
3. Be assertive
Instead of trying to take control, be gently confident and refuse to let yourself feel victimized. Control freaks can sense if you feel like a victim, and they will make a bee-line for you because you can help them feel less anxious by doing what they tell you. Don't give in to the need to justify yourself, but instead trust your own judgement.
4. Be consistent
Control freaks are always looking for ways to argue for their way of doing things and will jump at the chance to point out when you're wrong. But if you consistently stick to your opinions, they will have to do all the work to argue with you. What’s really going on here? Change threatens their control, so they dig their heels in, and try to save face at all costs. If that means you’re a casualty, or a means to an end, so be it
Hypnotherapy can give you the self-respect you need to avoid being a victim, and restores balance back to your relationship and life..
To controlled assertiveness and understanding,

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Do you live with or work with a Control Freak?
"It's my way or the highway!" I wouldn’t do it that way. Why don’t you try this? What are you doing? That’s not right. Don’t do that. Do this.
Has anyone ever said this to you?
While the phrase has become slightly too cliché to be used everyday, the sentiment certainly permeates much of modern life.
It can be difficult to work with, or live with, someone who is overly controlling.
Mainly because they don't see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right.
Whether it's asking you to tidy things up in a certain way, or micromanaging you to the point where you feel like you can't express your own opinions, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.


There are three things that make up a control freak:
1. Lack of Confidence
2. Trust Issues
3. Superiority Complex

To learn how to handle these types of people, it's important to look at the psychology behind why they are the way they are .
Managing The Micromanager
So how do you deal with control freaks? If you can’t avoid them, there are a few ways to minimize their damage:
1..If you’re dealing with a bullying type of control freak in a family/friend situation, leave. There is no obligation for you to stay and have to endure verbal abuse. No amount of turkey, sad-faced grandma, holiday guilt, or years of friendship, should induce you to put up with that behavior. Every time this person raises their voice or tries to bait you into an altercation, remove yourself from the situation. If they are unwilling to change, make that removal permanent.
2..If it is a work situation, it can be trickier. If the bully is your boss, report their behavior to Human Resources (if such a department exists). It may feel like you’re giving into them, but start to look for another job; after all, while HR may step in or document the situation, it could be a long time before that person is removed or you can transfer to a different department.
3.. If you’re dealing with a manipulator, like a co-worker or friend, just keep reiterating your needs and saying no. Practice saying no every morning in a mirror if you must, but say it. No is your weapon in fighting off their underhanded tactics and asserting yourself.
4… Don’t sweat the small stuff. As much as it may pain you to do so, let them have their little wins. If it’s something that doesn’t really matter that much, you are probably better off relinquishing your control and letting them have it. Save your assertive “no” for those times when you have a strong preference to do something on your terms. Otherwise, you risk a never-ending argument.
5.. Don’t take their controlling behavior personally; it is a character flaw of theirs that can have one of many different causes. It does not reflect on you, your character, or your abilities; chances are they are like this with everybody. It is not a personal attack on you, but rather a coping mechanism they employ; albeit a rather testing one.
6…Don’t fight them or try to change them – this will only lead to an escalation as they seek to assert their dominance over you. Instead, save your own sanity by accepting the situation and either leaving, as suggested above, or detaching yourself emotionally from their incessant orders, demands, and criticisms.
7.. Make suggestions and add your individual flair, but be prepared for them to be rejected outright. Take a gentle approach and ask them what they think of your ideas rather than just implementing them without any consultation (which they would consider an aggressive attempt to undermine them). This way you can stroke their ego and make them feel like they have control, while still playing an active, rather than passive, role in the situation.
8.. The best tip I can offer is, above all, try and remain calm. Allowing yourself to get upset just adds kindling to their fire. When you respond calmly, you limit their power over you. Part of being a control freak is about getting a reaction; they enjoy the feeling of power and being in control. If they aren’t able to bully or manipulate you, they can no longer control you and they will move on to another target.
It’s time for you to take back control, from the control freak.
How to handle them
And thankfully there are things you can do to make being around these people more bearable.
1. Give them advance warning of changes
A control freak takes time to get used to unexpected transitions. Give them as much time as possible to alter their expectations and find the resources to deal with the new situation.
2. Don't try to control them
Arguing with a control freak rarely works - they have spent their lives working on being right, and telling them what to do will only make them more disagreeable.
3. Be assertive
Instead of trying to take control, be gently confident and refuse to let yourself feel victimized. Control freaks can sense if you feel like a victim, and they will make a bee-line for you because you can help them feel less anxious by doing what they tell you. Don't give in to the need to justify yourself, but instead trust your own judgement.
4. Be consistent
Control freaks are always looking for ways to argue for their way of doing things and will jump at the chance to point out when you're wrong. But if you consistently stick to your opinions, they will have to do all the work to argue with you. What’s really going on here? Change threatens their control, so they dig their heels in, and try to save face at all costs. If that means you’re a casualty, or a means to an end, so be it
Hypnotherapy can give you the self-respect you need to avoid being a victim, and restores balance back to your relationship and life..
To controlled assertiveness and understanding,

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  • THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION
    Did you know that your thoughts affect your body and in fact your body hears every word that you are saying? So when was the last time you thought about what you were saying to yourself?
    Are You :
    Sick all the time or more than usual?
    Are you unable to lose weight or gain weight?
    Are you stressed or even depressed more than you should be?
    If you have answered yes to most of these questions, then it is time to start monitoring what internal statements you are saying to yourself.
    If you want to make ANY changes to your body then changing your thinking has to come first before any changes can be made. Whenever you do this your sub-conscious mind believes you and takes these thoughts as being reality and makes the changes.
    Do you remember the old saying sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me. Well that statement is very untrue. Negative words can hurt you whether they come from someone else or whether they are from yourself it makes no difference, they still hurt.
    Every word you say or think to yourself has a meaning that is attached to an emotion or a mental picture and then these are sent out as energy. As you hear, think, or talk to yourself your mind is dealing with and defining the words almost as fast as you can think them.
    Your mind believes everything you are thinking to be true, and then the mind reacts with physical responses. Believing these words to be true and the law of attraction will attract more of the same to you.
    So the next time you say to yourself, I will never have a slim body like that or I feel sick or I'm depressed then here lies the problem, your mind believes everything you are saying. It is very possible to cause sickness and diseases within your body by using your own thoughts.
    It is highly important to eliminate the use of all negative self talk, now. The more you use negative self talk the more your mind makes it a reality to your body.
    If you are overweight, start thinking like a thin person and see yourself at the weight you want to be and act like it's easy to stop eating whenever you are full.
    If you want to be healthy then start thinking and acting like a healthy person. A healthy person would not be smoking or eating fast foods every day.
    Become an actor and play the part of a healthy person or thin person and your mind finds a reason to make the changes for you to become that person. So if you truly want to feel better and change your life and your negative self thoughts to more positive thoughts then here are a few positive thoughts for you to think of every day.
    I feel healthy.
    I feel great.
    I feel relaxed and calm.
    I eat to live not life to eat.
    I love to walk and exercise.
    I'm healthy and full of energy.
    I'm happy to be alive and to be me.
    Now write down ten very positive affirmations on a card and read them to yourself 6 times a day. First thing in the morning and when you go to bed at night and in-between.
    The way you think is the way you live. This is the most basic law of life. What it is you think becomes what you will be tomorrow.
    Ron Thompson ACCHT
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I’ve seen your hopes and dreams. I’ve seen how beautiful they are, how strong they are. I’ve seen the courage it takes to even admit them out loud. I know how deep those dreams live in your soul. And I know, at times, you wonder if you’re crazy for even letting them take hold of you in the first place.
You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
You ARE good enough.
What if I told you that the reason you haven’t made those courageous dreams a reality is not because of anything you’ve done wrong. What if I told you that you’re just missing a secret — one that unlocks your greatest potential, propels you along your fateful path and keep you moving in the right direction? Would you want that secret?


Ok, fine, I’ll share it with you. ;)


The Law of Diminishing Intent says, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.”
— John Maxwell
Let’s break this down. The longer you put something off, the less likely it will EVER happen. By avoiding a task, you’re actually running the risk that it will never be realized.
Now let’s think about that in the scope of your lifelong dreams. What have you spent a lifetime waiting for? Generally, these are the goals and dreams we hold dearest — the ones our souls depend on, the ones we secretly live for when the days get long and the road gets tough.
So by putting those sacred dreams on hold, we’re actually dooming them. I’m going to repeat that.
By putting your dreams on hold, you’re dooming them to a slow, painful death.
Ok, so that may sound a bit dramatic. But your dreams are dramatic! They’re big and loud and singing from the very bottom of your soul! They deserve life! They deserve action! And the ones you’ve ignored your entire life are suffering the most!
Or will your resolve be too weak by then? Will your dreams have suffered yet another blow of procrastination? Will you be farther away than you’ve ever been before?
YES.
Now think about what you CAN accomplish in the next 3 months:
• Lose 15 pounds
• Double your income
• Learn to love yourself
• Finally let go the memories that hurt you every day
Here’s the bottom line: I refuse to make you do something you don’t want to do. No one can. But I will tell you that the choice you make today matters 1,000 times more than the choice you make tomorrow. So I’m here to help you make today count. Be a Self-starter and the rest is up to you.

 

 

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Although electronic cigarettes are supposed to help you ditch the highly additive habit, it's been found they can actually keep you addicted or even encourage addiction in those who wouldn't usually smoke. This is thought to be because of two main factors. Firstly, the 'cool' imagine they've developed thanks to celebrities users and secondly, the flavoured E-liquid inside.

These little devices have become fashion accessories with celebrities such as Leonardo DiCaprio smoking them very publically at the Golden Globes. This sends the message to smokers and non-smokers alike that smoking, as long as it's in an electronic form, is somehow acceptable. However, in reality, you're still ingesting nicotine and various other chemicals, which haven't been tested for human consumption. This sense of it being 'okay' to do can perpetuate the habit in smokers and encourage non-smokers to pick up the habit, starting with electronic cigarettes, which can be purchased easily over the internet or from chemists.

The E-liquid that you smoke comes in a range of flavours, like fruits and chocolate, which taste pleasant. Putting a pleasant taste to an addictive substance is a sure-fire way to encourage the habit and discourage those who're trying to quit for good. The mouth-watering flavours combined with the image being portrayed by celebrities is said to even encourage children to try E-cigarettes – a worrying development in the fight against smoking.

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Move over Lamaze. Hypnobirthers say their form of deep relaxation takes the panting and pain out of child labor.

The phone rang at 7:30 a.m. and I stumbled out of bed, bleary eyed and eight months pregnant, to find a message from Dan Gilman: his wife Laura Beth was in labor. I had never met the Gilmans, but they had generously invited me to witness the birth of their third child. They were using a pain control technique I was learning myself: Hypnobirthing.

I quickly organized a trip to the birthing center in Danbury, Connecticut, but just one hour after Dan's call, before I'd even made it out of New York City, Mitchell Gilman made it into the world.

When I spoke to her a week later, Laura Beth was apologetic. I was ecstatic. She was living proof of what hypnobirthing proponents kept telling me - that mothers who use this method of self-hypnosis to give birth in a trance like, deeply relaxed state often enjoy miraculously short labors. "He came out 28 minutes after my waters broke." Laura Beth told me. "And I was not in pain. I was able to really relax."

I wasn't an easy convert to hypnobirthing. For a start, hypnosis made me think of a traveling showman inducing an audience member to dance like a chicken. On top of that, my mother, her mother, every mother I'd ever met had drummed into me that child birth was agony. Pain free labor? Yeah, right. But my husband Alex - a doctor who sniggered every time my prenatal yoga video urged me to open up like a lotus blossom - was hypnobirthing's unlikely champion.

As a scientist, he embraced the logic of hypnobirthing: if women are terrified of childbirth, the fight or flight reflex kicks in once the contractions start. This reflex shuts down organs that are nonessential to fighting and fleeing, including the uterus. With reduced blood flow, the uterus cramps, causing pain. If women could relax, the theory goes, they would experience no pain, have more effective contractions and therefore a shorter labor.

Marie Monogan, 71, a Concord, New Hampshire, hypnotherapist, invented the technique and has taught it at her institute since 1989. When I told her I was afraid of failing at hypnobirthing, Monogan gave me simple advice: "Trust your body and your baby. They know what to do."

Alex and I signed up for private lessons with hypnobirthing teacher Suzanne Fremon. At first, I found it incredibly hard to clear my mind and relax. Expecting to find an alley in Alex, I vented after the first session about the silliness of imagining myself floating on rainbow clouds of mist. "Don't focus on the language," Alex said, sounding for all the world like a New Ager instead of a neurologist. "Focus on the intent." After a few weeks of practice on the subway, I could get to the end of taped 15 minute exercises and have no recollection of the of the train's having stopped. In our third of five sessions, Fremon pinched me while I was deeply relaxed. I felt nothing. When I was alert again, she pinched me as hard as before. I pulled away. Ouch!

Dr. Lorne Campbell Sr., an upstate New York family practitioner and clinical professor of family medicine, introduced hypnobirthing to his practice four years ago. Since then, he says, his C-section rate has dropped from 25% to 1%, and none of his more than 200 hypnobirthing patients have ever requested analgesic drugs during labor.

Word is slowly spreading; Mongan has trained more than 1,700 people in 15 years. At the start, most were hypnotherapists and midwives. Now, about half are doctors and nurses. "This is not fringe or alternative," she says. "The more doctors and nurses see this, the more they realize it's no fluke."

Sadly, I didn't get to prove that point to my doctor - our son was a breech baby and delivered by caesarean section. But the hypnobirthing lessons were not in vain: they helped me cope when two anesthesiologists made six attempts at inserting my spinal bloc for surgery, and I was able to relax through the post-surgical pain with a minimum of medication. Four months later, when our son finally falls asleep each night, I know just how to relax and swiftly follow suit."

Recourses ...AHA

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For anyone who has tried to study for an exam or take a test of any kind I'm sure that it's no surprise that anxiety scrambles your brain making learning hard. Over the last 10 years it has been concerning for me as I have witnessed the level of stress and anxiety rise among students and young people. High school and college students and even middle school and grade school students are under extreme pressure to perform well in school in preparation for acceptance to college. The levels of stress, anxiety, fear and depression in our children truly is frightening.

The good news is that the students that I meet in my office and online all report to me that they benefit from hypnosis for anxiety and hypnosis for academic performance. What's fun for me is that students are natural at hypnosis and easy learn self-hypnosis for stress management and use academic performance hypnosis.


How your brain becomes hardwired for fear. 


The problem is that most of the fears that we imagine never happen. For some people, the imagining of these fears becomes chronic - leading to anxiety and even panic attacks. Hypnosis for stress and anxiety can help you to be mindful and know that in the moment you are safe and OK. So whether it’s imagined stress or fear Hypnotherapy can help you to create new responses and remain calm in those exams or in any situations you may face. At the Nanaimo Hypnotherapy Center you can learn hypnosis to hardwire happiness, Calmness and relaxation and to unhook the old feelings of fear and negativity.

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Positive-Thinking Exercises That Will Make Anyone Healthier & Happier

 Practice these simple exercises and suggestions to keep your thoughts on the positive side.
   Only use positive words when talking. If you’re constantly telling yourself “I can’t” you may convince yourself that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.
   Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life

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For anyone who has tried to study for an exam or take a test of any kind I'm sure that it's no surprise that anxiety scrambles your brain making learning hard. Over the last 10 years it has been concerning for me as I have witnessed the level of stress and anxiety rise among students and young people. High school and college students and even middle school and grade school students are under extreme pressure to perform well in school in preparation for acceptance to college. The levels of stress, anxiety, fear and depression in our children truly is frightening.

The good news is that the students that I meet in my office and online all report to me that they benefit from hypnosis for anxiety and hypnosis for academic performance. What's fun for me is that students are natural at hypnosis and easy learn self-hypnosis for stress management and use academic performance hypnosis.
How your brain becomes hardwired for fear.
The problem is that most of the fears that we imagine never happen. For some people, the imagining of these fears becomes chronic - leading to anxiety and even panic attacks. Hypnosis for stress and anxiety can help you to be mindful and know that in the moment you are safe and OK. So whether it’s imagined stress or fear Hypnotherapy can help you to create new responses and remain calm in those exams or in any situations you may face. At the Nanaimo Hypnotherapy Center as well on our Skype program you can learn hypnosis to hardwire happiness, Calmness and relaxation and to unhook the old feelings of fear and negativity.

 

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Putting your Mindfulness Into Practice
The client is experiencing firsthand the feeling of being in the present moment while they are being induced into a hypnotic trance state. And it is during this hypnotic state that we help the person to change those things that they have wanted to change for their own sake by giving them the positive suggestions needed for their changes to take place.
Of course it also helps if a person makes a daily relaxing practice of focusing your attention on the present moment in the little common things we do and see and feel every day. Taking the time to truly taste, smell, feel, hear, and see those small things like eating, drinking, showering, driving, walking, running and on and on…really take the time to notice the collateral beauty you might say every moment of every day.
Enjoy every single 'present' moment this summer!

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Hey there , I hope wherever this note finds you that you're somewhere very tranquil just sittin' and chillin' relaxing, enjoying the rays for a wee bit, put your feet up and lean back some more....perhaps sipping on a cool iced tea, lemonade, beer or some other refreshing drink. Ah yes, SUMMER, more importantly the month of May, is exactly where it should be.... the middle of summer. There's no need to think about what's past and no need to plan for the future.....all you need is to enjoy this very moment in it's entirety, yes that's right, only this moment matters and nothing else....ahhhhhh

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Sugar sweetened beverages and childhood obesity
By now I thought that parents would understand the link between sugar sweetened beverages and childhood obesity. Sadly, I see young children drinking Gatorade, sodas, Big gulps and other heavy sugar added beverages.
Many adults know was it like to grow up as an overweight child and it appalls and saddens me to see so many of our children that are overweight or obese. Here in Canada and the states, More than 23% of children are obese.
Today, children have diabetes, heart disease, hypertension and other illnesses once thought to only occur in adults.
Childhood obesity is preventable and reversible. We can change this! We owe it to our children.
If you’d like to discover how your family can improve its health with weight loss hypnosis, email me now.'

 
SUGARY DRINKS 4 KIDS = FASTER WEIGHT GAIN
Children’s Weight Gain Nearly 50% higher with Sugar-Sweetened Beverages
We have all heard about the obesity risks associated with added sugar in our diets. With early childhood obesity now reaching near epidemic proportions, it’s no surprise sugary drinks for kids are getting even more bad press. A study by researchers at the University of Virginia and Columbia University, published last month in the journal Pediatrics, shows kids’ weight gain is nearly 50% higher when they get their sugar fix from such beverages.

Ron Thompson ACCHT
Info.nhc@shaw.ca

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Do you live with or work with a Control Freak?
"It's my way or the highway!" I wouldn’t do it that way. Why don’t you try this? What are you doing? That’s not right. Don’t do that. Do this.
Has anyone ever said this to you?
While the phrase has become slightly too cliché to be used everyday, the sentiment certainly permeates much of modern life.
It can be difficult to work with, or live with, someone who is overly controlling.
Mainly because they don't see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right.
Whether it's asking you to tidy things up in a certain way, or micromanaging you to the point where you feel like you can't express your own opinions, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.


There are three things that make up a control freak:
1. Lack of Confidence
2. Trust Issues
3. Superiority Complex

To learn how to handle these types of people, it's important to look at the psychology behind why they are the way they are .
Managing The Micromanager
So how do you deal with control freaks? If you can’t avoid them, there are a few ways to minimize their damage:
1..If you’re dealing with a bullying type of control freak in a family/friend situation, leave. There is no obligation for you to stay and have to endure verbal abuse. No amount of turkey, sad-faced grandma, holiday guilt, or years of friendship, should induce you to put up with that behavior. Every time this person raises their voice or tries to bait you into an altercation, remove yourself from the situation. If they are unwilling to change, make that removal permanent.
2..If it is a work situation, it can be trickier. If the bully is your boss, report their behavior to Human Resources (if such a department exists). It may feel like you’re giving into them, but start to look for another job; after all, while HR may step in or document the situation, it could be a long time before that person is removed or you can transfer to a different department.
3.. If you’re dealing with a manipulator, like a co-worker or friend, just keep reiterating your needs and saying no. Practice saying no every morning in a mirror if you must, but say it. No is your weapon in fighting off their underhanded tactics and asserting yourself.
4… Don’t sweat the small stuff. As much as it may pain you to do so, let them have their little wins. If it’s something that doesn’t really matter that much, you are probably better off relinquishing your control and letting them have it. Save your assertive “no” for those times when you have a strong preference to do something on your terms. Otherwise, you risk a never-ending argument.
5.. Don’t take their controlling behavior personally; it is a character flaw of theirs that can have one of many different causes. It does not reflect on you, your character, or your abilities; chances are they are like this with everybody. It is not a personal attack on you, but rather a coping mechanism they employ; albeit a rather testing one.
6…Don’t fight them or try to change them – this will only lead to an escalation as they seek to assert their dominance over you. Instead, save your own sanity by accepting the situation and either leaving, as suggested above, or detaching yourself emotionally from their incessant orders, demands, and criticisms.
7.. Make suggestions and add your individual flair, but be prepared for them to be rejected outright. Take a gentle approach and ask them what they think of your ideas rather than just implementing them without any consultation (which they would consider an aggressive attempt to undermine them). This way you can stroke their ego and make them feel like they have control, while still playing an active, rather than passive, role in the situation.
8.. The best tip I can offer is, above all, try and remain calm. Allowing yourself to get upset just adds kindling to their fire. When you respond calmly, you limit their power over you. Part of being a control freak is about getting a reaction; they enjoy the feeling of power and being in control. If they aren’t able to bully or manipulate you, they can no longer control you and they will move on to another target.
It’s time for you to take back control, from the control freak.
How to handle them
And thankfully there are things you can do to make being around these people more bearable.
1. Give them advance warning of changes
A control freak takes time to get used to unexpected transitions. Give them as much time as possible to alter their expectations and find the resources to deal with the new situation.
2. Don't try to control them
Arguing with a control freak rarely works - they have spent their lives working on being right, and telling them what to do will only make them more disagreeable.
3. Be assertive
Instead of trying to take control, be gently confident and refuse to let yourself feel victimized. Control freaks can sense if you feel like a victim, and they will make a bee-line for you because you can help them feel less anxious by doing what they tell you. Don't give in to the need to justify yourself, but instead trust your own judgement.
4. Be consistent
Control freaks are always looking for ways to argue for their way of doing things and will jump at the chance to point out when you're wrong. But if you consistently stick to your opinions, they will have to do all the work to argue with you. What’s really going on here? Change threatens their control, so they dig their heels in, and try to save face at all costs. If that means you’re a casualty, or a means to an end, so be it
Hypnotherapy can give you the self-respect you need to avoid being a victim, and restores balance back to your relationship and life..
To controlled assertiveness and understanding,

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Do you live with or work with a Control Freak?
"It's my way or the highway!" I wouldn’t do it that way. Why don’t you try this? What are you doing? That’s not right. Don’t do that. Do this.
Has anyone ever said this to you?
While the phrase has become slightly too cliché to be used everyday, the sentiment certainly permeates much of modern life.
It can be difficult to work with, or live with, someone who is overly controlling.
Mainly because they don't see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right.
Whether it's asking you to tidy things up in a certain way, or micromanaging you to the point where you feel like you can't express your own opinions, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.


There are three things that make up a control freak:
1. Lack of Confidence
2. Trust Issues
3. Superiority Complex

To learn how to handle these types of people, it's important to look at the psychology behind why they are the way they are .
Managing The Micromanager
So how do you deal with control freaks? If you can’t avoid them, there are a few ways to minimize their damage:
1..If you’re dealing with a bullying type of control freak in a family/friend situation, leave. There is no obligation for you to stay and have to endure verbal abuse. No amount of turkey, sad-faced grandma, holiday guilt, or years of friendship, should induce you to put up with that behavior. Every time this person raises their voice or tries to bait you into an altercation, remove yourself from the situation. If they are unwilling to change, make that removal permanent.
2..If it is a work situation, it can be trickier. If the bully is your boss, report their behavior to Human Resources (if such a department exists). It may feel like you’re giving into them, but start to look for another job; after all, while HR may step in or document the situation, it could be a long time before that person is removed or you can transfer to a different department.
3.. If you’re dealing with a manipulator, like a co-worker or friend, just keep reiterating your needs and saying no. Practice saying no every morning in a mirror if you must, but say it. No is your weapon in fighting off their underhanded tactics and asserting yourself.
4… Don’t sweat the small stuff. As much as it may pain you to do so, let them have their little wins. If it’s something that doesn’t really matter that much, you are probably better off relinquishing your control and letting them have it. Save your assertive “no” for those times when you have a strong preference to do something on your terms. Otherwise, you risk a never-ending argument.
5.. Don’t take their controlling behavior personally; it is a character flaw of theirs that can have one of many different causes. It does not reflect on you, your character, or your abilities; chances are they are like this with everybody. It is not a personal attack on you, but rather a coping mechanism they employ; albeit a rather testing one.
6…Don’t fight them or try to change them – this will only lead to an escalation as they seek to assert their dominance over you. Instead, save your own sanity by accepting the situation and either leaving, as suggested above, or detaching yourself emotionally from their incessant orders, demands, and criticisms.
7.. Make suggestions and add your individual flair, but be prepared for them to be rejected outright. Take a gentle approach and ask them what they think of your ideas rather than just implementing them without any consultation (which they would consider an aggressive attempt to undermine them). This way you can stroke their ego and make them feel like they have control, while still playing an active, rather than passive, role in the situation.
8.. The best tip I can offer is, above all, try and remain calm. Allowing yourself to get upset just adds kindling to their fire. When you respond calmly, you limit their power over you. Part of being a control freak is about getting a reaction; they enjoy the feeling of power and being in control. If they aren’t able to bully or manipulate you, they can no longer control you and they will move on to another target.
It’s time for you to take back control, from the control freak.
How to handle them
And thankfully there are things you can do to make being around these people more bearable.
1. Give them advance warning of changes
A control freak takes time to get used to unexpected transitions. Give them as much time as possible to alter their expectations and find the resources to deal with the new situation.
2. Don't try to control them
Arguing with a control freak rarely works - they have spent their lives working on being right, and telling them what to do will only make them more disagreeable.
3. Be assertive
Instead of trying to take control, be gently confident and refuse to let yourself feel victimized. Control freaks can sense if you feel like a victim, and they will make a bee-line for you because you can help them feel less anxious by doing what they tell you. Don't give in to the need to justify yourself, but instead trust your own judgement.
4. Be consistent
Control freaks are always looking for ways to argue for their way of doing things and will jump at the chance to point out when you're wrong. But if you consistently stick to your opinions, they will have to do all the work to argue with you. What’s really going on here? Change threatens their control, so they dig their heels in, and try to save face at all costs. If that means you’re a casualty, or a means to an end, so be it
Hypnotherapy can give you the self-respect you need to avoid being a victim, and restores balance back to your relationship and life..
To controlled assertiveness and understanding,

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  • THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION
    Did you know that your thoughts affect your body and in fact your body hears every word that you are saying? So when was the last time you thought about what you were saying to yourself?
    Are You :
    Sick all the time or more than usual?
    Are you unable to lose weight or gain weight?
    Are you stressed or even depressed more than you should be?
    If you have answered yes to most of these questions, then it is time to start monitoring what internal statements you are saying to yourself.
    If you want to make ANY changes to your body then changing your thinking has to come first before any changes can be made. Whenever you do this your sub-conscious mind believes you and takes these thoughts as being reality and makes the changes.
    Do you remember the old saying sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me. Well that statement is very untrue. Negative words can hurt you whether they come from someone else or whether they are from yourself it makes no difference, they still hurt.
    Every word you say or think to yourself has a meaning that is attached to an emotion or a mental picture and then these are sent out as energy. As you hear, think, or talk to yourself your mind is dealing with and defining the words almost as fast as you can think them.
    Your mind believes everything you are thinking to be true, and then the mind reacts with physical responses. Believing these words to be true and the law of attraction will attract more of the same to you.
    So the next time you say to yourself, I will never have a slim body like that or I feel sick or I'm depressed then here lies the problem, your mind believes everything you are saying. It is very possible to cause sickness and diseases within your body by using your own thoughts.
    It is highly important to eliminate the use of all negative self talk, now. The more you use negative self talk the more your mind makes it a reality to your body.
    If you are overweight, start thinking like a thin person and see yourself at the weight you want to be and act like it's easy to stop eating whenever you are full.
    If you want to be healthy then start thinking and acting like a healthy person. A healthy person would not be smoking or eating fast foods every day.
    Become an actor and play the part of a healthy person or thin person and your mind finds a reason to make the changes for you to become that person. So if you truly want to feel better and change your life and your negative self thoughts to more positive thoughts then here are a few positive thoughts for you to think of every day.
    I feel healthy.
    I feel great.
    I feel relaxed and calm.
    I eat to live not life to eat.
    I love to walk and exercise.
    I'm healthy and full of energy.
    I'm happy to be alive and to be me.
    Now write down ten very positive affirmations on a card and read them to yourself 6 times a day. First thing in the morning and when you go to bed at night and in-between.
    The way you think is the way you live. This is the most basic law of life. What it is you think becomes what you will be tomorrow.
    Ron Thompson ACCHT
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I’ve seen your hopes and dreams. I’ve seen how beautiful they are, how strong they are. I’ve seen the courage it takes to even admit them out loud. I know how deep those dreams live in your soul. And I know, at times, you wonder if you’re crazy for even letting them take hold of you in the first place.
You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
You ARE good enough.
What if I told you that the reason you haven’t made those courageous dreams a reality is not because of anything you’ve done wrong. What if I told you that you’re just missing a secret — one that unlocks your greatest potential, propels you along your fateful path and keep you moving in the right direction? Would you want that secret?


Ok, fine, I’ll share it with you. ;)


The Law of Diminishing Intent says, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.”
— John Maxwell
Let’s break this down. The longer you put something off, the less likely it will EVER happen. By avoiding a task, you’re actually running the risk that it will never be realized.
Now let’s think about that in the scope of your lifelong dreams. What have you spent a lifetime waiting for? Generally, these are the goals and dreams we hold dearest — the ones our souls depend on, the ones we secretly live for when the days get long and the road gets tough.
So by putting those sacred dreams on hold, we’re actually dooming them. I’m going to repeat that.
By putting your dreams on hold, you’re dooming them to a slow, painful death.
Ok, so that may sound a bit dramatic. But your dreams are dramatic! They’re big and loud and singing from the very bottom of your soul! They deserve life! They deserve action! And the ones you’ve ignored your entire life are suffering the most!
Or will your resolve be too weak by then? Will your dreams have suffered yet another blow of procrastination? Will you be farther away than you’ve ever been before?
YES.
Now think about what you CAN accomplish in the next 3 months:
• Lose 15 pounds
• Double your income
• Learn to love yourself
• Finally let go the memories that hurt you every day
Here’s the bottom line: I refuse to make you do something you don’t want to do. No one can. But I will tell you that the choice you make today matters 1,000 times more than the choice you make tomorrow. So I’m here to help you make today count. Be a Self-starter and the rest is up to you.

 

 

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Although electronic cigarettes are supposed to help you ditch the highly additive habit, it's been found they can actually keep you addicted or even encourage addiction in those who wouldn't usually smoke. This is thought to be because of two main factors. Firstly, the 'cool' imagine they've developed thanks to celebrities users and secondly, the flavoured E-liquid inside.

These little devices have become fashion accessories with celebrities such as Leonardo DiCaprio smoking them very publically at the Golden Globes. This sends the message to smokers and non-smokers alike that smoking, as long as it's in an electronic form, is somehow acceptable. However, in reality, you're still ingesting nicotine and various other chemicals, which haven't been tested for human consumption. This sense of it being 'okay' to do can perpetuate the habit in smokers and encourage non-smokers to pick up the habit, starting with electronic cigarettes, which can be purchased easily over the internet or from chemists.

The E-liquid that you smoke comes in a range of flavours, like fruits and chocolate, which taste pleasant. Putting a pleasant taste to an addictive substance is a sure-fire way to encourage the habit and discourage those who're trying to quit for good. The mouth-watering flavours combined with the image being portrayed by celebrities is said to even encourage children to try E-cigarettes – a worrying development in the fight against smoking.

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Move over Lamaze. Hypnobirthers say their form of deep relaxation takes the panting and pain out of child labor.

The phone rang at 7:30 a.m. and I stumbled out of bed, bleary eyed and eight months pregnant, to find a message from Dan Gilman: his wife Laura Beth was in labor. I had never met the Gilmans, but they had generously invited me to witness the birth of their third child. They were using a pain control technique I was learning myself: Hypnobirthing.

I quickly organized a trip to the birthing center in Danbury, Connecticut, but just one hour after Dan's call, before I'd even made it out of New York City, Mitchell Gilman made it into the world.

When I spoke to her a week later, Laura Beth was apologetic. I was ecstatic. She was living proof of what hypnobirthing proponents kept telling me - that mothers who use this method of self-hypnosis to give birth in a trance like, deeply relaxed state often enjoy miraculously short labors. "He came out 28 minutes after my waters broke." Laura Beth told me. "And I was not in pain. I was able to really relax."

I wasn't an easy convert to hypnobirthing. For a start, hypnosis made me think of a traveling showman inducing an audience member to dance like a chicken. On top of that, my mother, her mother, every mother I'd ever met had drummed into me that child birth was agony. Pain free labor? Yeah, right. But my husband Alex - a doctor who sniggered every time my prenatal yoga video urged me to open up like a lotus blossom - was hypnobirthing's unlikely champion.

As a scientist, he embraced the logic of hypnobirthing: if women are terrified of childbirth, the fight or flight reflex kicks in once the contractions start. This reflex shuts down organs that are nonessential to fighting and fleeing, including the uterus. With reduced blood flow, the uterus cramps, causing pain. If women could relax, the theory goes, they would experience no pain, have more effective contractions and therefore a shorter labor.

Marie Monogan, 71, a Concord, New Hampshire, hypnotherapist, invented the technique and has taught it at her institute since 1989. When I told her I was afraid of failing at hypnobirthing, Monogan gave me simple advice: "Trust your body and your baby. They know what to do."

Alex and I signed up for private lessons with hypnobirthing teacher Suzanne Fremon. At first, I found it incredibly hard to clear my mind and relax. Expecting to find an alley in Alex, I vented after the first session about the silliness of imagining myself floating on rainbow clouds of mist. "Don't focus on the language," Alex said, sounding for all the world like a New Ager instead of a neurologist. "Focus on the intent." After a few weeks of practice on the subway, I could get to the end of taped 15 minute exercises and have no recollection of the of the train's having stopped. In our third of five sessions, Fremon pinched me while I was deeply relaxed. I felt nothing. When I was alert again, she pinched me as hard as before. I pulled away. Ouch!

Dr. Lorne Campbell Sr., an upstate New York family practitioner and clinical professor of family medicine, introduced hypnobirthing to his practice four years ago. Since then, he says, his C-section rate has dropped from 25% to 1%, and none of his more than 200 hypnobirthing patients have ever requested analgesic drugs during labor.

Word is slowly spreading; Mongan has trained more than 1,700 people in 15 years. At the start, most were hypnotherapists and midwives. Now, about half are doctors and nurses. "This is not fringe or alternative," she says. "The more doctors and nurses see this, the more they realize it's no fluke."

Sadly, I didn't get to prove that point to my doctor - our son was a breech baby and delivered by caesarean section. But the hypnobirthing lessons were not in vain: they helped me cope when two anesthesiologists made six attempts at inserting my spinal bloc for surgery, and I was able to relax through the post-surgical pain with a minimum of medication. Four months later, when our son finally falls asleep each night, I know just how to relax and swiftly follow suit."

Recourses ...AHA

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For anyone who has tried to study for an exam or take a test of any kind I'm sure that it's no surprise that anxiety scrambles your brain making learning hard. Over the last 10 years it has been concerning for me as I have witnessed the level of stress and anxiety rise among students and young people. High school and college students and even middle school and grade school students are under extreme pressure to perform well in school in preparation for acceptance to college. The levels of stress, anxiety, fear and depression in our children truly is frightening.

The good news is that the students that I meet in my office and online all report to me that they benefit from hypnosis for anxiety and hypnosis for academic performance. What's fun for me is that students are natural at hypnosis and easy learn self-hypnosis for stress management and use academic performance hypnosis.


How your brain becomes hardwired for fear. 


The problem is that most of the fears that we imagine never happen. For some people, the imagining of these fears becomes chronic - leading to anxiety and even panic attacks. Hypnosis for stress and anxiety can help you to be mindful and know that in the moment you are safe and OK. So whether it’s imagined stress or fear Hypnotherapy can help you to create new responses and remain calm in those exams or in any situations you may face. At the Nanaimo Hypnotherapy Center you can learn hypnosis to hardwire happiness, Calmness and relaxation and to unhook the old feelings of fear and negativity.

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Positive-Thinking Exercises That Will Make Anyone Healthier & Happier

 Practice these simple exercises and suggestions to keep your thoughts on the positive side.
   Only use positive words when talking. If you’re constantly telling yourself “I can’t” you may convince yourself that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.
   Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life

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For anyone who has tried to study for an exam or take a test of any kind I'm sure that it's no surprise that anxiety scrambles your brain making learning hard. Over the last 10 years it has been concerning for me as I have witnessed the level of stress and anxiety rise among students and young people. High school and college students and even middle school and grade school students are under extreme pressure to perform well in school in preparation for acceptance to college. The levels of stress, anxiety, fear and depression in our children truly is frightening.

The good news is that the students that I meet in my office and online all report to me that they benefit from hypnosis for anxiety and hypnosis for academic performance. What's fun for me is that students are natural at hypnosis and easy learn self-hypnosis for stress management and use academic performance hypnosis.
How your brain becomes hardwired for fear.
The problem is that most of the fears that we imagine never happen. For some people, the imagining of these fears becomes chronic - leading to anxiety and even panic attacks. Hypnosis for stress and anxiety can help you to be mindful and know that in the moment you are safe and OK. So whether it’s imagined stress or fear Hypnotherapy can help you to create new responses and remain calm in those exams or in any situations you may face. At the Nanaimo Hypnotherapy Center as well on our Skype program you can learn hypnosis to hardwire happiness, Calmness and relaxation and to unhook the old feelings of fear and negativity.

 

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Putting your Mindfulness Into Practice
The client is experiencing firsthand the feeling of being in the present moment while they are being induced into a hypnotic trance state. And it is during this hypnotic state that we help the person to change those things that they have wanted to change for their own sake by giving them the positive suggestions needed for their changes to take place.
Of course it also helps if a person makes a daily relaxing practice of focusing your attention on the present moment in the little common things we do and see and feel every day. Taking the time to truly taste, smell, feel, hear, and see those small things like eating, drinking, showering, driving, walking, running and on and on…really take the time to notice the collateral beauty you might say every moment of every day.
Enjoy every single 'present' moment this summer!

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Hey there , I hope wherever this note finds you that you're somewhere very tranquil just sittin' and chillin' relaxing, enjoying the rays for a wee bit, put your feet up and lean back some more....perhaps sipping on a cool iced tea, lemonade, beer or some other refreshing drink. Ah yes, SUMMER, more importantly the month of May, is exactly where it should be.... the middle of summer. There's no need to think about what's past and no need to plan for the future.....all you need is to enjoy this very moment in it's entirety, yes that's right, only this moment matters and nothing else....ahhhhhh

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Sugar sweetened beverages and childhood obesity
By now I thought that parents would understand the link between sugar sweetened beverages and childhood obesity. Sadly, I see young children drinking Gatorade, sodas, Big gulps and other heavy sugar added beverages.
Many adults know was it like to grow up as an overweight child and it appalls and saddens me to see so many of our children that are overweight or obese. Here in Canada and the states, More than 23% of children are obese.
Today, children have diabetes, heart disease, hypertension and other illnesses once thought to only occur in adults.
Childhood obesity is preventable and reversible. We can change this! We owe it to our children.
If you’d like to discover how your family can improve its health with weight loss hypnosis, email me now.'

 
SUGARY DRINKS 4 KIDS = FASTER WEIGHT GAIN
Children’s Weight Gain Nearly 50% higher with Sugar-Sweetened Beverages
We have all heard about the obesity risks associated with added sugar in our diets. With early childhood obesity now reaching near epidemic proportions, it’s no surprise sugary drinks for kids are getting even more bad press. A study by researchers at the University of Virginia and Columbia University, published last month in the journal Pediatrics, shows kids’ weight gain is nearly 50% higher when they get their sugar fix from such beverages.

Ron Thompson ACCHT
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