Sarah Reilly

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Intensive coaching and re-wiring for entrepreneurs, execs and creatives. 

Overcome frustrating survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism, overwhelm, codependency, distraction, confusion and imposter syndrome by updating and uplevelling your programming and identity. 

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'The problem is: You think you have time...'
-Jack Kornfield
 
When I quit my corporate career in back in 2016, it actually wasn't to launch my coaching business. 
Not because I didn't want to be a coach... I'd been training to coach and daydreaming about coaching and wishing it was possible for me for about 14yrs by then. 
 
I just didn't know it was an option, because I hadn't deprogrammed the specific Survival Meaning that was crushing that dream. 
 
So why did I quit, then?
 
Because I was already in my 30s, and I hadn't ticked a single thing off my (real) bucket list.
 
Sure I'd done a few fun things in my time - backpacked around various parts of the world, worked hilarious jobs, flown a stunt plane, yada yada yada...
But the REAL bucket list? That had the big stuff on it.
 
Publish a novel.
Travel the world with no budget and no time restraints.
Live in a ski resort so I could snowboard every day.
Be my own boss.
Stop hating and bullying myself.
 
All stuff I didn't believe was possible, and had no idea how to do, but was terrified of dying without achieving. 
 
My theory at the time was 'You can't get to a happy destination on an unhappy journey', so even if I lost everything in the pursuit, it was still a better outcome than guaranteeing failure by staying in a job I hated, in a country I didn't want to be in, slowly growing tumours from the stress of my awful choices.
 
So the real reason I finally leapt was because I didn't perceive any other way out. 
I reasoned: 'If I spend all my savings doing things I actually love, maybe my health and focus will improve to the point where I can find a way to survive that doesn't make me sick.'
 
Pretty low standard, hey. 
 
True story: the day after I quit I saw an ad for a writer's retreat in Bali. They promised military-grade support to ensure you completed the first draft of your novel in under a month. It cost a third of everything I had to my name to be there, but everything in my body screamed 'this is the next step.'
 
I panicked, I asked everyone I could find's permission (and some were seriously against it), I negotiated, I paced, I talked myself in and out of it, I lay awake at night over it. I was nauseated by it. 
 
But I did it. And you know what that retreat got me?
 
A completed novel.
A phenomenal mentor.
My deepest bullets extracted.
A successful coaching business.
A view into a world I never realized existed.
Ongoing support.
Incredible friends. 
Once in a lifetime experiences.
And I lost a fight with a monkey.
 
Worth it? 
 
YOU FUCKING BET.
 
(Even the fight - the money only got away with my water bottle and the bite didn't get infected.)
 
So here's the point.
 
You might live to be a hundred. 
Or this year might be your last.
 
I don't know. You don't know. Nobody knows.
 
So what's on your REAL bucket list?
What will you be so goddamn gutted you missed out on if you are outta time?
What dreams have you suppressed, written off, given up on, let go of, that if you're honest - are still a splinter in your brain?
 
Because it's all possible. 
It was always possible.
You just got distracted by your autopilot taking you through a series of familiar life-tasks.
 
You know we can change the programming, right?
You know none of your traits or habits or other coping mechanisms are permanent, right?
You know the science doesn't even support the concept of 'personality'... RIGHT?
 
If you only remember one thing from this piece of writing, let it be this:
Just because you don't currently know how to do it, doesn't mean it can't be done.
 
It can all be done, and if you want 1-1 support to do it, apply for coaching with me via sarahreillycoaching.com.
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah :) xoxo
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I'm finding that people's responses to the idea of hiring a coach are pretty 'end of the spectrum' rather than 'middle ground' these days.
I'm noticing that the people I run into are either:
 
'Oh absolutely - I'd never be without that kind of support. You think I'd take a risk on not having any of my dreams pan out? Are you HIGH?!'
 
or
 
'Pay someone to help me live my dreams? Why would I do that? The only person that can change my life is ME.'
 
I'm gunna jam out on the second one for a bit. I whole-heartedly believe that the only person who can physically enact the change is you. But it's a bit hard to do that if you don't know what the root cause of the problem is (because it's buried in your subconscious) and you don't know what to do, practically speaking (because you've never made a change of this size before) and you don't have the resources and support to hand (because you haven't hired a coach, yet).
 
When I ask people what they want, the vast majority start with 'I don't know.'
A bit of prodding gets them as far as 'but it's not realistic' or 'but I can't do it yet' or 'but I need more money.'
 
If any of those were objectively true, no-one would be out there changing the world right now. But they are.
 
If money was the decider, only rich people would be making a difference. But they're not.
If screeds of qualifications were necessary to get started, every successful person would have them. But they don't.
If everyone had to wait until their kids were grown and gone to get started on a project, there would be no parent entrepreneurs. But there are tons.
If we could all only do 'realistic' things, we'd never do anything new. But we do. Every day someone breaks a record or invents something else or creates a new service.
 
Every. Single. Day. People are doing things you're saying can't be done.
 
Now, I know the voice in your head is very insistent and seems to be making a lot of sense. But the voice in your head isn't you. And it's not interested in helping you live your dreams. The ego exists to keep you in situations that you know how to navigate to increase your chances of survival.
 
But it's 2019. No big animals are coming to eat you while you sleep. Change isn't the threat anymore.
 
And I'm pretty sure mere survival isn't your goal for this life.
 
So why listen to a voice that isn't interested in you living your dreams, when you could be listening to me, instead.. 😉
 
And given how well the ego has worked as a business mentor up until now.. 🙄 ...do you think perhaps it might be time to try someone new?
 
Your best thinking got you this far. If where you are now isn't where you want to be,
💥then that thinking isn't working...💥
 
Try some new ideas. Be open to some new strategies. Consider some new perspectives. Take up some new offers.
 
Live the life of your dreams, not just the one you've settled for. ♥️
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One of the most common things people say to me on a discovery call is 'I don't know.'
 
'I just don't know why I keep doing that!' 
'I don't know why I feel like this!?' 
'I don't know why it bothered me so much!'
'I don't know why I haven't done it yet!'
 
So I thought I'd post a freebie.. 😉
A free boot in the butt for anyone out there that needs it, but doesn't have a coach in their corner as yet.
 
So here it is. 
  1. You do know.
  2. Stop instructing your brain not to release the information.
You have to be very careful what you say, because you are listening. Telling yourself over and over again that you don't know, or that you're unsure, or that you're not ready, or that you can't, is all just self-hypnosis.
You repeat something enough times you'll start to believe it, which you've proven with the 'I don't know' script.
 
Isn't it curious that we don't generally apply this diligence and tenacity to installing new scripts like 'I could definitely do that' or 'it's safe to ask for support' or 'money is easy to come by'...?
 
Imagine what you could install if you used all the elevated emotion and conviction that you apply to 'I don't know', to create a belief you would actually benefit from...
 
And more importantly, how much damage do you think it's doing to have beliefs and models of reality running in the background that you're either unaware of (because they were programmed in childhood) or debilitated by (because they've primed your nervous system to react to and repel everything you're trying to call in - like money, opportunities or more visibility for your business)...?
 
Not a lot of point spending all day hustlin' n grindin' to 'put yourself out there' if you're self sabotaging all the time with procrastination, confusion and overwhelm because your system has a link between visibility and danger...
 
If it feels like it might be time for a software upgrade, drop me a message. 
You might be able to keep hitting 'remind me tomorrow' on your laptop updates, but people don't have infinite tomorrows...
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah xo
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As James Wedmore says, 'the transformation is in the transaction.'
 
The impact of hiring a coach is catalyzed and launched by the shift in energy that occurs when you finally choose to invest in yourself.
 
Until you decide that you are worth investing in, no-one else will invest in you.
Until you decide that you are worth support, resources and everything else you need... no-one else will provide them, and even if they try - you won't fully receive and utilize it.
Until you decide that you and your mission warrants expenditure, no-one else is going to risk their money on you...
 
Have you ever noticed that reading a lot of self-help books and absorbing a lot of free content doesn't seem to be translating to business growth, account growth, relationship change etc in your real, tangible life?
 
There are a few reasons for that:
 
1. No skin in the game. If there are no consequences to inaction, your survival wiring is going to prioritize inaction. Survival doesn't allow for risk taking, and ultimate (perceived) safety requires ultimate familiarity. Unfortunately that comes as a package deal with Ultimate Regret.
 
Downside: No changes by you = no changes for you.
 
2. Emotional buy-in and financial buy-in are intimately linked. Large expenses stay front-of-mind because we are trained to link money with survival. Make a big investment = pay big attention = make big changes = see big results.
 
Downside: The safe option often looks like the cheap option which gets commensurate results. Go big or go home, is my advice.
 
3. Books and free content are read / handled by the conscious mind, and that's not where the problems are. If it was simply a matter of conscious choices, you would've made different ones already.
 
Downside: Easier said than done. But, it's a lot easier done when you have support, illumination of psychological blindspots, strategy, accountability and a calmer nervous system to calibrate to. Ipso facto: Get a coach.
 
How else have you noticed that simply reading motivational quotes and absorbing public material doesn't work for you? I'd love for you to drop your experience with and without personalized support in the comments so that everyone can learn :)
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah xo
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If you're going to follow coaches on social media, you should expect to feel triggered, confronted and challenged.
Because we're mean? No.
Because that's exactly what we're here for.
 
If we don't challenge your current models of reality, you won't realize that they are just that... models. Options. Choices. Particular versions of the world.
 
Not all there is. Not 'the' reality. Not all there can be.
 
If we don't trigger you, you could go years without isolating that particular pain point for removal. Without isolating it, it can be in the driver's seat, dictating sh1tty choices and old patterns (like only dating narcissists or procrastinating on your dreams) for YEARS.
 
If we don't confront you, you won't become aware of the limbo state - where life isn't perfect, but it's not SO bad that you have to change things.
Many people will start climbing with support, but a few need to hit rock bottom first to get the bounce that propels them into a different consciousness. I'm not judging whichever one you wanna be, but everyone could use a wake up call from time to time.
 
So why this message, and why now?
 
Because there's a lot of phenomenal coaches posting truly revolutionary sh1t in the online space and you know what kind of responses they're getting?
 
Triggered ones.
Confronted ones.
Challenged ones.
 
Ones that assume their model of reality is 'the' model of reality.
Ones that assume that because they don't currently know how to get around a particular issue, that that particular issue can't be got around...
Ones that jump straight to defensiveness or attack, rather than taking a moment to examine within themselves why they would be feeling any resistance to that new idea.
 
The experience you're currently having is one available option. Our reality is a projection of us; if you want a different one, you have to confront, challenge, and likely be triggered by some assumptions that you made many years ago and have chosen to stick by since then.
 
So... if you're going to follow us, do it with the right intention. Do it to be triggered, do it to be confronted, do it to be challenged.
But don't do it to have a platform to air your limited assumptions about what's possible, because that doesn't hurt us, but it REALLY hurts you.
 
When you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.
So whose side are you fighting on?
 
'Cos we're on your side.. and it's a little lonely over here, bud.
 
***
 
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah
xoxo
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I want to take a moment to address this because it's a super common misconception that you can talk yourself into a different reality without engaging your emotional state.
 
Affirmations, visualizations, journal prompts, Kylego etc are tools, designed to get you to feel the emotions you would feel if your goal was already achieved.
Simply saying the affirmation or picturing the goal isn't going to cause a manifestation if you're not prepared to change how you're thinking and feeling. 
What we know from quantum physics is that atoms respond to our vibration, and our vibration comes down to our emotional state.
 
Newtonian (matrix level) is 'cause and effect', 
Quantum (the building blocks of reality) is 'effect triggers cause', meaning that you need to create the effect of your goal having been achieved (e.g. feeling proud, successful, secure, important, safe, calm, excited etc) in order to issue the correct blue-print. 
 
Someone who is excited will create a world full of things to excite them, because the atoms build a reality that supports and reinforces who you ARE, not what you want.
Someone who is constantly frustrated will generate a world full of things that frustrate them.
 
In addition, whatever you focus on, your brain assumes is important and relevant, and prioritizes it. So if you're focussed on problems, your brain deliberately seeks them out and prioritizes them for extra attention. Then, as you pour more fuel into them rather than elevating past them, they get bigger. And the cycle continues until you learn to control your emotional state, independent of your environment.
 
If you need help understanding or implementing any of the above, drop me a message. 
I love supporting absolute legends to new heights of health, wealth and success.
 
Always in your corner,
Sarah
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Having a pain point doesn't mean other people have to adjust what they say and how they live to appease you.
 
Having a pain point means you learned something a long time ago that probably isn't still serving you, and you're being given an opportunity to address and release it so that you can grow into the fullest expression of who you really are, instead of the costumed collection of coping mechanisms you may be now...
 
Here's an example of a pain point we frequently see on social media..:
 
Someone says something along the lines of 'we create our own reality, we are in control of our emotions, perception is subjective etc etc.'
 
All common sentiments, all factually accurate.
Not all well-received by the masses.. ;)
 
A person who has struggled their whole life may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person with low emotional intelligence may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person who perceives that their safety exists in something outside of them (e.g. a job) may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
 
Some of these people may react. Some may troll, some may flat out rip you a new one... ;) Some may politely disagree citing 'evidence'.
 
If any of these people are ready to grow, the pain around the statement will cause them to say something to themselves along the lines of 'Why does this bother me? What does it threaten in me to consider this new perspective? How does it protect me to try and defend or justify what I've believed up until now?
And the kicker: 'If what I've believed up until now hasn't landed me the life of my dreams.. what might a new belief like this one bring about instead..?'
 
Someone who isn't ready to grow, will ask something closer to 'who does this unrealistic jackass think she is?!'
 
(Forgetting, ironically, that reality is inherently subjective and jackasses are inherently delightful - I met one at a petting zoo, once.)
 
Where I'm going with this, is that the author of the post does not control where the reader is in their journey, and therefore they cannot control the reception. They can only speak their truth as they know it, trusting that if it is coming through them at this particular time, someone needs to hear it, and the message will get to that person in divine time.
 
If you have been wanting to speak some truth for some time, but you are worried about the trolls, please know this.
 
You are important.
Your message is important.
80yo you would be very disappointed to look back on this opportunity to speak up and know that you allowed yourself to be silenced by a few keyboard warriors, slangin' poorly-spelled insults from their mom's basement.. ;)
 
And the big kahuna:
 
No-one who did anything important was universally liked.
 
There will be trolls.
Say it anyway.
 
Not everyone will understand.
Do what's in your heart anyway.
 
They might not like it.
Try it anyway.
 
They might not like you.
Be you anyway.
 
I love you,
Sarah
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All the successful people I've met have something in common:
 
They took steps to change the old pattern, rather than remaining a prisoner of the pattern.
 
Let me explain.
 
If you are not where you want to be, then whoever you're being and whatever you're doing clearly isn't working. Right? I hope we agree on the bare evidence, at least.
 
So if you don't make massive change to how you operate, it doesn't seem very logical or reasonable that things would change... correct?
 
The difference between people who succeed and people who keep recreating what they know, is that successful people recognize that they can't use their current circumstances as an excuse for not changing, because they created their current circumstances by doing / being / thinking how they've done / been / thought.
 
We are not 'to blame' for everything in our projection, but we are 'at the cause', meaning our reality is constructed in response to us.
 
So let's apply this practically, with a common-place example..:
 
If you aren't making change because you're saying that you 'can't afford it', does it make much sense to you to continue operating the same way, given that those methods made you broke?!
 
I KNOW it's scary to release money.
I KNOW it's scary to consider debt.
I KNOW it's scary to take a leap of faith.
I KNOW it's scary to invest in yourself.
 
I, and everyone else who's done it, KNOW how nerve-wracking it is.
 
But you know what's even more scary?
Staying in the same situation for the next 20yrs.
 
When I hired my first coach (10yrs ago now) I had just moved in with my abusive boyfriend because I couldn't make my mortgage payments. I sold everything I owned and took out a credit card to cover the bill
 
True story: I phoned Tony Robbins Companies from under a dining room table in the foetal position. I couldn't even afford the toll-call, let alone the coach, but what I said to the person who picked up was: 'I don't even really know what a coach does, but you have to help me.'
 
You don't have to get to the point of a breakdown to breakthrough... but if you're going to break down, you may as well break through... ;)
 
That was the start of my re-wiring, and it was worth every penny. I've been travelling the world living my dreams for the last 2.5yrs after I finally packed in my exec career back in 2016, and I've not been without support since. Right now I'm working with 4 different coaches and THEY ARE THE REASON I can afford them.
 
They up level my identity to the person that has what I want.
They call my on my BS.
They don't let me fun fear or victim patterns when I'm moving fast.
They hold my hand when I have to do a scary thing.
They celebrate my wins with me.
They teach me phenomenal strategy.
They illuminate my psychological blindspots.
 
SO.
 
Here's a thought for you to mull over:
We invest in ourselves to the level we believe we deserve.
 
Where have you been discounting your worth up until now? Drop me a comment and let me know all of your feels <3
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I am currently using 3 different coaches, for different areas of my life, and on top of that I'm enrolled in a handful of Masterminds, to ensure my vibe and energetic minimums don't slip back to the comfort and complacency that my ego enjoys. My support is a critical investment, because procrastination, overwhelm and fear cost more than quality mentorship ever could. 
And yesterday I had a discovery call with another coach. 
 
I never turn down the opportunity to chat, because I don't believe in coincidence. If we fall into each other's orbit, there will be a reason, and I know I can trust my body to make the right decision. If it's a no, it's a no, and we're all professionals here - there'll be no hard feelings. 
 
BUT.. a yes often feels much worse than a no. And since I experienced the most uncomfortable yes of my life yesterday, I thought it would be worth a public post. Because a common misconception I've found, is that people think growth and progress looks like skipping through a tulip field while your PayPal notifications 'bing!' melodiously. 
 
In reality, it looks like your vagus nerve has been plucked like a guitar string, and you're wondering if there's time to exit the Zoom call before you vomit on the screen.
 
In the discovery call, we discussed some things that need work around attachment theory, complimentary energies, and expansion. Now, all of these things are constantly being worked on, but from different angles and viewpoints. And this particular coach brought a completely new perspective to the mix. One that would require an unprecedented level of bravery and release.
 
How did I know that this was going to be pivotal input that was worth the investment? 
I got sick. I got really sick. We reached the part of the discussion where it was time to choose between moving forward or falling back into what I knew, and my entire survival system went haywire. I had a vagal response, my head was aching, I was dizzy and I needed to breathe through some fairly intense nausea.
 
And here's why that was the best thing EVER:
 
I was not under threat. There were no tigers in my office at that time. No murderers at the door, no building on fire. 
And yet my system responded as though we were gunna die. Which means someone is... and it's not me. 
 
So who was it? 
 
Short answer: my story. My current understanding of who I am and what I'm capable of.
 
Our identities are made up of our survival meanings, our coping mechanisms and our experiences. It incorporates our models of reality, our emotional homes and our value and belief systems. As far as the nervous system is concerned, a threat to your identity is a threat to your life. This is why it's so uncomfortable to have your perceptions about what's possible rejected or corrected.
Case in point: If you've struggled with money your whole life, how much do you enjoy someone telling you that money is everywhere and super easy to receive, even without work? 
I bet some part of you wants to punt that person into the next neighbourhood.
 
Well, imagine that response on steroids. Imagine someone simultaneously questioned EVERYTHING about you and your world.
 
That's what I experienced, and that's why I needed to say yes. 
 
Not in the moment, mind. In the moment I couldn't tell if I needed to cry or find a bathroom. So I went and had the fit, and then I reached out again to confirm the contract. 
 
Your new life will cost you your old one. When you're standing at the edge, and it's time to drop the old weight that will enable you to climb to the next level, do you hold on to what you know? Or release and climb?
 
Our decisions in these moments shape our future. Drop me a comment and tell me what kind of decisions you're making in 2019 😊
 
Best,
Sarah xo

 

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This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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Earlier today I did a meditation, where I met and spoke to myself at various points in the future.
 
Future me has achieved everything I want to achieve and is effin awesome, if I do say so myself.
 
In addition, every future version of me had some incredible advice. I suspect it will also help some of you out there, so here it is.
 
2yrs into the future:
Future me is in LA with my best friend and we're strolling down the street on our way to get some eats.
(I look like I've taken up bodysculpting, which is excellent news because my best friend is a fitness model and hanging out with her can sometimes be a little 'confronting' in the aesthetics dept... 😉)
I interrupt this bolder, fitter, brighter version and she is so pleased to see me. She says:
"Sometimes you forget that the world is mirroring everything you think you are and everything you believe. So with that in mind, you need to have more fun. You need to relax, so that your world can reflect back to you that that's safe. Doing fun things, going on adventures and investing in yourself isn't 'spending', it's guaranteeing your success. Because it comes from a place of knowing you're infinitely guided and supported."
 
5yrs into the future:
I'm in my fabulous multi-storey mezzanine-levelled-to-h*ll beach house overlooking the ocean in Australia. Future me is upstairs getting ready for dinner but she sees me in the lounge admiring the view and rushes downstairs to give me a hug. She laughs at my reaction to the (completely OTT) house and says:
"Why do you seem surprised that you could have so much? The whole planet and everything it contains is just a humming ball of atoms - align with some fun ones and materialize some cool sh*t. You get so stuck on the 'how', but all the 'hows' are in the material world, and you know better than to mess with the finished product, when you could simply issue a new blueprint and watch it being built from the beach."
 
10yrs into the future:
I'm on a yacht. It's a great thing I got into body sculpting 9yrs ago because my 44yo body is rocking that bikini like it's her job. I think it might be. She comes inside to get some ice out of the freezer for more drinks and sees me standing there looking really pleased that there's a yacht in my future. She sees everything that's wrong with me (health-wise) and looks sympathetic. I admire her hair - sea salt was always my best styling tool. She touches my face and says:
"What you resist, persists. You only have these problems because you're trying so hard to get rid of them from a place of judgement. You think you're scouring away everything that's 'wrong' with you, but it was never wrong. It's just human. You were judged so harshly for every little thing that you learned you need 'fixing' around the clock. Your body is tired from all the correcting, love. Start caring."
 
20yrs into the future:
I'm in a stone villa in France. I'm sat at a beautiful table in my rustic kitchen, writing another book on another Mac. I'm dressed very chic, no doubt influenced by discovering Sezane sweaters recently. As I'm standing behind myself, watching her type, I hope I bought shares in that company. I sit down on the side of the table, in her peripheral vision. She looks less surprised but equally happy to see me. She sees me looking at the Mac and seems to know intuitively that the next thing I need to hear is about speaking up. She says:
"Just say it. The idea of the outrage is much worse than the reality. You will say things that are true, and people will be angry, and then it will be forgotten, and it won't really have mattered anyway, so what was all the fear and fuss about? The things you're learning are to be shared - education is for evolution. But everyone evolves at different speeds. Whoever needs to hear it, will. Whoever isn't ready, will troll. But you remain safe, and the reaction remains irrelevant. Just say it."
 
50yrs into the future.
I'm old, I'm in an armchair, I look very happy, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm surrounded by a lot of family or if it's because I have a cup of tea. I prize tea very highly and I'm pleased to see it's still a thing in 2069. Please note I'm referring to real tea - black, caffeinated, powerful. Not that weird lawn-water Americans think is tea. Future me smiles and says:
"The bad stuff was the most important part. We must break our hearts until they open, and I'm sorry yours was smashed so early, love. But you had to be very open to receive the volume of learning you're here for. You have so much to do, and be, and know, and there simply wouldn't have been room or time if you'd received the toughest lessons any later. You've often thought that being broken so young was the thing that got in the way... In fact, it is the only reason you can do any of this stuff. It wasn't a pain to get over, it was the most important part of your journey: it was the catalyst. But I have good news. Forgive me if I spoil the ending, but it all works out. Relax and enjoy the ride, love. It's going to be a truly phenomenal adventure."
 
I got a lot out of this meditation - I hope what I received was helpful for you too. 
All my love,
Sarah xo
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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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'The problem is: You think you have time...'
-Jack Kornfield
 
When I quit my corporate career in back in 2016, it actually wasn't to launch my coaching business. 
Not because I didn't want to be a coach... I'd been training to coach and daydreaming about coaching and wishing it was possible for me for about 14yrs by then. 
 
I just didn't know it was an option, because I hadn't deprogrammed the specific Survival Meaning that was crushing that dream. 
 
So why did I quit, then?
 
Because I was already in my 30s, and I hadn't ticked a single thing off my (real) bucket list.
 
Sure I'd done a few fun things in my time - backpacked around various parts of the world, worked hilarious jobs, flown a stunt plane, yada yada yada...
But the REAL bucket list? That had the big stuff on it.
 
Publish a novel.
Travel the world with no budget and no time restraints.
Live in a ski resort so I could snowboard every day.
Be my own boss.
Stop hating and bullying myself.
 
All stuff I didn't believe was possible, and had no idea how to do, but was terrified of dying without achieving. 
 
My theory at the time was 'You can't get to a happy destination on an unhappy journey', so even if I lost everything in the pursuit, it was still a better outcome than guaranteeing failure by staying in a job I hated, in a country I didn't want to be in, slowly growing tumours from the stress of my awful choices.
 
So the real reason I finally leapt was because I didn't perceive any other way out. 
I reasoned: 'If I spend all my savings doing things I actually love, maybe my health and focus will improve to the point where I can find a way to survive that doesn't make me sick.'
 
Pretty low standard, hey. 
 
True story: the day after I quit I saw an ad for a writer's retreat in Bali. They promised military-grade support to ensure you completed the first draft of your novel in under a month. It cost a third of everything I had to my name to be there, but everything in my body screamed 'this is the next step.'
 
I panicked, I asked everyone I could find's permission (and some were seriously against it), I negotiated, I paced, I talked myself in and out of it, I lay awake at night over it. I was nauseated by it. 
 
But I did it. And you know what that retreat got me?
 
A completed novel.
A phenomenal mentor.
My deepest bullets extracted.
A successful coaching business.
A view into a world I never realized existed.
Ongoing support.
Incredible friends. 
Once in a lifetime experiences.
And I lost a fight with a monkey.
 
Worth it? 
 
YOU FUCKING BET.
 
(Even the fight - the money only got away with my water bottle and the bite didn't get infected.)
 
So here's the point.
 
You might live to be a hundred. 
Or this year might be your last.
 
I don't know. You don't know. Nobody knows.
 
So what's on your REAL bucket list?
What will you be so goddamn gutted you missed out on if you are outta time?
What dreams have you suppressed, written off, given up on, let go of, that if you're honest - are still a splinter in your brain?
 
Because it's all possible. 
It was always possible.
You just got distracted by your autopilot taking you through a series of familiar life-tasks.
 
You know we can change the programming, right?
You know none of your traits or habits or other coping mechanisms are permanent, right?
You know the science doesn't even support the concept of 'personality'... RIGHT?
 
If you only remember one thing from this piece of writing, let it be this:
Just because you don't currently know how to do it, doesn't mean it can't be done.
 
It can all be done, and if you want 1-1 support to do it, apply for coaching with me via sarahreillycoaching.com.
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah :) xoxo
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I'm finding that people's responses to the idea of hiring a coach are pretty 'end of the spectrum' rather than 'middle ground' these days.
I'm noticing that the people I run into are either:
 
'Oh absolutely - I'd never be without that kind of support. You think I'd take a risk on not having any of my dreams pan out? Are you HIGH?!'
 
or
 
'Pay someone to help me live my dreams? Why would I do that? The only person that can change my life is ME.'
 
I'm gunna jam out on the second one for a bit. I whole-heartedly believe that the only person who can physically enact the change is you. But it's a bit hard to do that if you don't know what the root cause of the problem is (because it's buried in your subconscious) and you don't know what to do, practically speaking (because you've never made a change of this size before) and you don't have the resources and support to hand (because you haven't hired a coach, yet).
 
When I ask people what they want, the vast majority start with 'I don't know.'
A bit of prodding gets them as far as 'but it's not realistic' or 'but I can't do it yet' or 'but I need more money.'
 
If any of those were objectively true, no-one would be out there changing the world right now. But they are.
 
If money was the decider, only rich people would be making a difference. But they're not.
If screeds of qualifications were necessary to get started, every successful person would have them. But they don't.
If everyone had to wait until their kids were grown and gone to get started on a project, there would be no parent entrepreneurs. But there are tons.
If we could all only do 'realistic' things, we'd never do anything new. But we do. Every day someone breaks a record or invents something else or creates a new service.
 
Every. Single. Day. People are doing things you're saying can't be done.
 
Now, I know the voice in your head is very insistent and seems to be making a lot of sense. But the voice in your head isn't you. And it's not interested in helping you live your dreams. The ego exists to keep you in situations that you know how to navigate to increase your chances of survival.
 
But it's 2019. No big animals are coming to eat you while you sleep. Change isn't the threat anymore.
 
And I'm pretty sure mere survival isn't your goal for this life.
 
So why listen to a voice that isn't interested in you living your dreams, when you could be listening to me, instead.. 😉
 
And given how well the ego has worked as a business mentor up until now.. 🙄 ...do you think perhaps it might be time to try someone new?
 
Your best thinking got you this far. If where you are now isn't where you want to be,
💥then that thinking isn't working...💥
 
Try some new ideas. Be open to some new strategies. Consider some new perspectives. Take up some new offers.
 
Live the life of your dreams, not just the one you've settled for. ♥️
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One of the most common things people say to me on a discovery call is 'I don't know.'
 
'I just don't know why I keep doing that!' 
'I don't know why I feel like this!?' 
'I don't know why it bothered me so much!'
'I don't know why I haven't done it yet!'
 
So I thought I'd post a freebie.. 😉
A free boot in the butt for anyone out there that needs it, but doesn't have a coach in their corner as yet.
 
So here it is. 
  1. You do know.
  2. Stop instructing your brain not to release the information.
You have to be very careful what you say, because you are listening. Telling yourself over and over again that you don't know, or that you're unsure, or that you're not ready, or that you can't, is all just self-hypnosis.
You repeat something enough times you'll start to believe it, which you've proven with the 'I don't know' script.
 
Isn't it curious that we don't generally apply this diligence and tenacity to installing new scripts like 'I could definitely do that' or 'it's safe to ask for support' or 'money is easy to come by'...?
 
Imagine what you could install if you used all the elevated emotion and conviction that you apply to 'I don't know', to create a belief you would actually benefit from...
 
And more importantly, how much damage do you think it's doing to have beliefs and models of reality running in the background that you're either unaware of (because they were programmed in childhood) or debilitated by (because they've primed your nervous system to react to and repel everything you're trying to call in - like money, opportunities or more visibility for your business)...?
 
Not a lot of point spending all day hustlin' n grindin' to 'put yourself out there' if you're self sabotaging all the time with procrastination, confusion and overwhelm because your system has a link between visibility and danger...
 
If it feels like it might be time for a software upgrade, drop me a message. 
You might be able to keep hitting 'remind me tomorrow' on your laptop updates, but people don't have infinite tomorrows...
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah xo
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As James Wedmore says, 'the transformation is in the transaction.'
 
The impact of hiring a coach is catalyzed and launched by the shift in energy that occurs when you finally choose to invest in yourself.
 
Until you decide that you are worth investing in, no-one else will invest in you.
Until you decide that you are worth support, resources and everything else you need... no-one else will provide them, and even if they try - you won't fully receive and utilize it.
Until you decide that you and your mission warrants expenditure, no-one else is going to risk their money on you...
 
Have you ever noticed that reading a lot of self-help books and absorbing a lot of free content doesn't seem to be translating to business growth, account growth, relationship change etc in your real, tangible life?
 
There are a few reasons for that:
 
1. No skin in the game. If there are no consequences to inaction, your survival wiring is going to prioritize inaction. Survival doesn't allow for risk taking, and ultimate (perceived) safety requires ultimate familiarity. Unfortunately that comes as a package deal with Ultimate Regret.
 
Downside: No changes by you = no changes for you.
 
2. Emotional buy-in and financial buy-in are intimately linked. Large expenses stay front-of-mind because we are trained to link money with survival. Make a big investment = pay big attention = make big changes = see big results.
 
Downside: The safe option often looks like the cheap option which gets commensurate results. Go big or go home, is my advice.
 
3. Books and free content are read / handled by the conscious mind, and that's not where the problems are. If it was simply a matter of conscious choices, you would've made different ones already.
 
Downside: Easier said than done. But, it's a lot easier done when you have support, illumination of psychological blindspots, strategy, accountability and a calmer nervous system to calibrate to. Ipso facto: Get a coach.
 
How else have you noticed that simply reading motivational quotes and absorbing public material doesn't work for you? I'd love for you to drop your experience with and without personalized support in the comments so that everyone can learn :)
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah xo
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If you're going to follow coaches on social media, you should expect to feel triggered, confronted and challenged.
Because we're mean? No.
Because that's exactly what we're here for.
 
If we don't challenge your current models of reality, you won't realize that they are just that... models. Options. Choices. Particular versions of the world.
 
Not all there is. Not 'the' reality. Not all there can be.
 
If we don't trigger you, you could go years without isolating that particular pain point for removal. Without isolating it, it can be in the driver's seat, dictating sh1tty choices and old patterns (like only dating narcissists or procrastinating on your dreams) for YEARS.
 
If we don't confront you, you won't become aware of the limbo state - where life isn't perfect, but it's not SO bad that you have to change things.
Many people will start climbing with support, but a few need to hit rock bottom first to get the bounce that propels them into a different consciousness. I'm not judging whichever one you wanna be, but everyone could use a wake up call from time to time.
 
So why this message, and why now?
 
Because there's a lot of phenomenal coaches posting truly revolutionary sh1t in the online space and you know what kind of responses they're getting?
 
Triggered ones.
Confronted ones.
Challenged ones.
 
Ones that assume their model of reality is 'the' model of reality.
Ones that assume that because they don't currently know how to get around a particular issue, that that particular issue can't be got around...
Ones that jump straight to defensiveness or attack, rather than taking a moment to examine within themselves why they would be feeling any resistance to that new idea.
 
The experience you're currently having is one available option. Our reality is a projection of us; if you want a different one, you have to confront, challenge, and likely be triggered by some assumptions that you made many years ago and have chosen to stick by since then.
 
So... if you're going to follow us, do it with the right intention. Do it to be triggered, do it to be confronted, do it to be challenged.
But don't do it to have a platform to air your limited assumptions about what's possible, because that doesn't hurt us, but it REALLY hurts you.
 
When you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them.
So whose side are you fighting on?
 
'Cos we're on your side.. and it's a little lonely over here, bud.
 
***
 
 
Forever in your corner,
Sarah
xoxo
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I want to take a moment to address this because it's a super common misconception that you can talk yourself into a different reality without engaging your emotional state.
 
Affirmations, visualizations, journal prompts, Kylego etc are tools, designed to get you to feel the emotions you would feel if your goal was already achieved.
Simply saying the affirmation or picturing the goal isn't going to cause a manifestation if you're not prepared to change how you're thinking and feeling. 
What we know from quantum physics is that atoms respond to our vibration, and our vibration comes down to our emotional state.
 
Newtonian (matrix level) is 'cause and effect', 
Quantum (the building blocks of reality) is 'effect triggers cause', meaning that you need to create the effect of your goal having been achieved (e.g. feeling proud, successful, secure, important, safe, calm, excited etc) in order to issue the correct blue-print. 
 
Someone who is excited will create a world full of things to excite them, because the atoms build a reality that supports and reinforces who you ARE, not what you want.
Someone who is constantly frustrated will generate a world full of things that frustrate them.
 
In addition, whatever you focus on, your brain assumes is important and relevant, and prioritizes it. So if you're focussed on problems, your brain deliberately seeks them out and prioritizes them for extra attention. Then, as you pour more fuel into them rather than elevating past them, they get bigger. And the cycle continues until you learn to control your emotional state, independent of your environment.
 
If you need help understanding or implementing any of the above, drop me a message. 
I love supporting absolute legends to new heights of health, wealth and success.
 
Always in your corner,
Sarah
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Having a pain point doesn't mean other people have to adjust what they say and how they live to appease you.
 
Having a pain point means you learned something a long time ago that probably isn't still serving you, and you're being given an opportunity to address and release it so that you can grow into the fullest expression of who you really are, instead of the costumed collection of coping mechanisms you may be now...
 
Here's an example of a pain point we frequently see on social media..:
 
Someone says something along the lines of 'we create our own reality, we are in control of our emotions, perception is subjective etc etc.'
 
All common sentiments, all factually accurate.
Not all well-received by the masses.. ;)
 
A person who has struggled their whole life may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person with low emotional intelligence may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
A person who perceives that their safety exists in something outside of them (e.g. a job) may experience psychological pain (cognitive dissonance) upon reading the above sentiments.
 
Some of these people may react. Some may troll, some may flat out rip you a new one... ;) Some may politely disagree citing 'evidence'.
 
If any of these people are ready to grow, the pain around the statement will cause them to say something to themselves along the lines of 'Why does this bother me? What does it threaten in me to consider this new perspective? How does it protect me to try and defend or justify what I've believed up until now?
And the kicker: 'If what I've believed up until now hasn't landed me the life of my dreams.. what might a new belief like this one bring about instead..?'
 
Someone who isn't ready to grow, will ask something closer to 'who does this unrealistic jackass think she is?!'
 
(Forgetting, ironically, that reality is inherently subjective and jackasses are inherently delightful - I met one at a petting zoo, once.)
 
Where I'm going with this, is that the author of the post does not control where the reader is in their journey, and therefore they cannot control the reception. They can only speak their truth as they know it, trusting that if it is coming through them at this particular time, someone needs to hear it, and the message will get to that person in divine time.
 
If you have been wanting to speak some truth for some time, but you are worried about the trolls, please know this.
 
You are important.
Your message is important.
80yo you would be very disappointed to look back on this opportunity to speak up and know that you allowed yourself to be silenced by a few keyboard warriors, slangin' poorly-spelled insults from their mom's basement.. ;)
 
And the big kahuna:
 
No-one who did anything important was universally liked.
 
There will be trolls.
Say it anyway.
 
Not everyone will understand.
Do what's in your heart anyway.
 
They might not like it.
Try it anyway.
 
They might not like you.
Be you anyway.
 
I love you,
Sarah
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All the successful people I've met have something in common:
 
They took steps to change the old pattern, rather than remaining a prisoner of the pattern.
 
Let me explain.
 
If you are not where you want to be, then whoever you're being and whatever you're doing clearly isn't working. Right? I hope we agree on the bare evidence, at least.
 
So if you don't make massive change to how you operate, it doesn't seem very logical or reasonable that things would change... correct?
 
The difference between people who succeed and people who keep recreating what they know, is that successful people recognize that they can't use their current circumstances as an excuse for not changing, because they created their current circumstances by doing / being / thinking how they've done / been / thought.
 
We are not 'to blame' for everything in our projection, but we are 'at the cause', meaning our reality is constructed in response to us.
 
So let's apply this practically, with a common-place example..:
 
If you aren't making change because you're saying that you 'can't afford it', does it make much sense to you to continue operating the same way, given that those methods made you broke?!
 
I KNOW it's scary to release money.
I KNOW it's scary to consider debt.
I KNOW it's scary to take a leap of faith.
I KNOW it's scary to invest in yourself.
 
I, and everyone else who's done it, KNOW how nerve-wracking it is.
 
But you know what's even more scary?
Staying in the same situation for the next 20yrs.
 
When I hired my first coach (10yrs ago now) I had just moved in with my abusive boyfriend because I couldn't make my mortgage payments. I sold everything I owned and took out a credit card to cover the bill
 
True story: I phoned Tony Robbins Companies from under a dining room table in the foetal position. I couldn't even afford the toll-call, let alone the coach, but what I said to the person who picked up was: 'I don't even really know what a coach does, but you have to help me.'
 
You don't have to get to the point of a breakdown to breakthrough... but if you're going to break down, you may as well break through... ;)
 
That was the start of my re-wiring, and it was worth every penny. I've been travelling the world living my dreams for the last 2.5yrs after I finally packed in my exec career back in 2016, and I've not been without support since. Right now I'm working with 4 different coaches and THEY ARE THE REASON I can afford them.
 
They up level my identity to the person that has what I want.
They call my on my BS.
They don't let me fun fear or victim patterns when I'm moving fast.
They hold my hand when I have to do a scary thing.
They celebrate my wins with me.
They teach me phenomenal strategy.
They illuminate my psychological blindspots.
 
SO.
 
Here's a thought for you to mull over:
We invest in ourselves to the level we believe we deserve.
 
Where have you been discounting your worth up until now? Drop me a comment and let me know all of your feels <3
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I am currently using 3 different coaches, for different areas of my life, and on top of that I'm enrolled in a handful of Masterminds, to ensure my vibe and energetic minimums don't slip back to the comfort and complacency that my ego enjoys. My support is a critical investment, because procrastination, overwhelm and fear cost more than quality mentorship ever could. 
And yesterday I had a discovery call with another coach. 
 
I never turn down the opportunity to chat, because I don't believe in coincidence. If we fall into each other's orbit, there will be a reason, and I know I can trust my body to make the right decision. If it's a no, it's a no, and we're all professionals here - there'll be no hard feelings. 
 
BUT.. a yes often feels much worse than a no. And since I experienced the most uncomfortable yes of my life yesterday, I thought it would be worth a public post. Because a common misconception I've found, is that people think growth and progress looks like skipping through a tulip field while your PayPal notifications 'bing!' melodiously. 
 
In reality, it looks like your vagus nerve has been plucked like a guitar string, and you're wondering if there's time to exit the Zoom call before you vomit on the screen.
 
In the discovery call, we discussed some things that need work around attachment theory, complimentary energies, and expansion. Now, all of these things are constantly being worked on, but from different angles and viewpoints. And this particular coach brought a completely new perspective to the mix. One that would require an unprecedented level of bravery and release.
 
How did I know that this was going to be pivotal input that was worth the investment? 
I got sick. I got really sick. We reached the part of the discussion where it was time to choose between moving forward or falling back into what I knew, and my entire survival system went haywire. I had a vagal response, my head was aching, I was dizzy and I needed to breathe through some fairly intense nausea.
 
And here's why that was the best thing EVER:
 
I was not under threat. There were no tigers in my office at that time. No murderers at the door, no building on fire. 
And yet my system responded as though we were gunna die. Which means someone is... and it's not me. 
 
So who was it? 
 
Short answer: my story. My current understanding of who I am and what I'm capable of.
 
Our identities are made up of our survival meanings, our coping mechanisms and our experiences. It incorporates our models of reality, our emotional homes and our value and belief systems. As far as the nervous system is concerned, a threat to your identity is a threat to your life. This is why it's so uncomfortable to have your perceptions about what's possible rejected or corrected.
Case in point: If you've struggled with money your whole life, how much do you enjoy someone telling you that money is everywhere and super easy to receive, even without work? 
I bet some part of you wants to punt that person into the next neighbourhood.
 
Well, imagine that response on steroids. Imagine someone simultaneously questioned EVERYTHING about you and your world.
 
That's what I experienced, and that's why I needed to say yes. 
 
Not in the moment, mind. In the moment I couldn't tell if I needed to cry or find a bathroom. So I went and had the fit, and then I reached out again to confirm the contract. 
 
Your new life will cost you your old one. When you're standing at the edge, and it's time to drop the old weight that will enable you to climb to the next level, do you hold on to what you know? Or release and climb?
 
Our decisions in these moments shape our future. Drop me a comment and tell me what kind of decisions you're making in 2019 😊
 
Best,
Sarah xo

 

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This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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Earlier today I did a meditation, where I met and spoke to myself at various points in the future.
 
Future me has achieved everything I want to achieve and is effin awesome, if I do say so myself.
 
In addition, every future version of me had some incredible advice. I suspect it will also help some of you out there, so here it is.
 
2yrs into the future:
Future me is in LA with my best friend and we're strolling down the street on our way to get some eats.
(I look like I've taken up bodysculpting, which is excellent news because my best friend is a fitness model and hanging out with her can sometimes be a little 'confronting' in the aesthetics dept... 😉)
I interrupt this bolder, fitter, brighter version and she is so pleased to see me. She says:
"Sometimes you forget that the world is mirroring everything you think you are and everything you believe. So with that in mind, you need to have more fun. You need to relax, so that your world can reflect back to you that that's safe. Doing fun things, going on adventures and investing in yourself isn't 'spending', it's guaranteeing your success. Because it comes from a place of knowing you're infinitely guided and supported."
 
5yrs into the future:
I'm in my fabulous multi-storey mezzanine-levelled-to-h*ll beach house overlooking the ocean in Australia. Future me is upstairs getting ready for dinner but she sees me in the lounge admiring the view and rushes downstairs to give me a hug. She laughs at my reaction to the (completely OTT) house and says:
"Why do you seem surprised that you could have so much? The whole planet and everything it contains is just a humming ball of atoms - align with some fun ones and materialize some cool sh*t. You get so stuck on the 'how', but all the 'hows' are in the material world, and you know better than to mess with the finished product, when you could simply issue a new blueprint and watch it being built from the beach."
 
10yrs into the future:
I'm on a yacht. It's a great thing I got into body sculpting 9yrs ago because my 44yo body is rocking that bikini like it's her job. I think it might be. She comes inside to get some ice out of the freezer for more drinks and sees me standing there looking really pleased that there's a yacht in my future. She sees everything that's wrong with me (health-wise) and looks sympathetic. I admire her hair - sea salt was always my best styling tool. She touches my face and says:
"What you resist, persists. You only have these problems because you're trying so hard to get rid of them from a place of judgement. You think you're scouring away everything that's 'wrong' with you, but it was never wrong. It's just human. You were judged so harshly for every little thing that you learned you need 'fixing' around the clock. Your body is tired from all the correcting, love. Start caring."
 
20yrs into the future:
I'm in a stone villa in France. I'm sat at a beautiful table in my rustic kitchen, writing another book on another Mac. I'm dressed very chic, no doubt influenced by discovering Sezane sweaters recently. As I'm standing behind myself, watching her type, I hope I bought shares in that company. I sit down on the side of the table, in her peripheral vision. She looks less surprised but equally happy to see me. She sees me looking at the Mac and seems to know intuitively that the next thing I need to hear is about speaking up. She says:
"Just say it. The idea of the outrage is much worse than the reality. You will say things that are true, and people will be angry, and then it will be forgotten, and it won't really have mattered anyway, so what was all the fear and fuss about? The things you're learning are to be shared - education is for evolution. But everyone evolves at different speeds. Whoever needs to hear it, will. Whoever isn't ready, will troll. But you remain safe, and the reaction remains irrelevant. Just say it."
 
50yrs into the future.
I'm old, I'm in an armchair, I look very happy, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm surrounded by a lot of family or if it's because I have a cup of tea. I prize tea very highly and I'm pleased to see it's still a thing in 2069. Please note I'm referring to real tea - black, caffeinated, powerful. Not that weird lawn-water Americans think is tea. Future me smiles and says:
"The bad stuff was the most important part. We must break our hearts until they open, and I'm sorry yours was smashed so early, love. But you had to be very open to receive the volume of learning you're here for. You have so much to do, and be, and know, and there simply wouldn't have been room or time if you'd received the toughest lessons any later. You've often thought that being broken so young was the thing that got in the way... In fact, it is the only reason you can do any of this stuff. It wasn't a pain to get over, it was the most important part of your journey: it was the catalyst. But I have good news. Forgive me if I spoil the ending, but it all works out. Relax and enjoy the ride, love. It's going to be a truly phenomenal adventure."
 
I got a lot out of this meditation - I hope what I received was helpful for you too. 
All my love,
Sarah xo
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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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