Sarah Reilly

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Intensive coaching and re-wiring for entrepreneurs, execs and creatives. 

Overcome frustrating survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism, overwhelm, codependency, distraction, confusion and imposter syndrome by updating and uplevelling your programming and identity. 

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I am currently using 3 different coaches, for different areas of my life, and on top of that I'm enrolled in a handful of Masterminds, to ensure my vibe and energetic minimums don't slip back to the comfort and complacency that my ego enjoys. My support is a critical investment, because procrastination, overwhelm and fear cost more than quality mentorship ever could. 
And yesterday I had a discovery call with another coach. 
 
I never turn down the opportunity to chat, because I don't believe in coincidence. If we fall into each other's orbit, there will be a reason, and I know I can trust my body to make the right decision. If it's a no, it's a no, and we're all professionals here - there'll be no hard feelings. 
 
BUT.. a yes often feels much worse than a no. And since I experienced the most uncomfortable yes of my life yesterday, I thought it would be worth a public post. Because a common misconception I've found, is that people think growth and progress looks like skipping through a tulip field while your PayPal notifications 'bing!' melodiously. 
 
In reality, it looks like your vagus nerve has been plucked like a guitar string, and you're wondering if there's time to exit the Zoom call before you vomit on the screen.
 
In the discovery call, we discussed some things that need work around attachment theory, complimentary energies, and expansion. Now, all of these things are constantly being worked on, but from different angles and viewpoints. And this particular coach brought a completely new perspective to the mix. One that would require an unprecedented level of bravery and release.
 
How did I know that this was going to be pivotal input that was worth the investment? 
I got sick. I got really sick. We reached the part of the discussion where it was time to choose between moving forward or falling back into what I knew, and my entire survival system went haywire. I had a vagal response, my head was aching, I was dizzy and I needed to breathe through some fairly intense nausea.
 
And here's why that was the best thing EVER:
 
I was not under threat. There were no tigers in my office at that time. No murderers at the door, no building on fire. 
And yet my system responded as though we were gunna die. Which means someone is... and it's not me. 
 
So who was it? 
 
Short answer: my story. My current understanding of who I am and what I'm capable of.
 
Our identities are made up of our survival meanings, our coping mechanisms and our experiences. It incorporates our models of reality, our emotional homes and our value and belief systems. As far as the nervous system is concerned, a threat to your identity is a threat to your life. This is why it's so uncomfortable to have your perceptions about what's possible rejected or corrected.
Case in point: If you've struggled with money your whole life, how much do you enjoy someone telling you that money is everywhere and super easy to receive, even without work? 
I bet some part of you wants to punt that person into the next neighbourhood.
 
Well, imagine that response on steroids. Imagine someone simultaneously questioned EVERYTHING about you and your world.
 
That's what I experienced, and that's why I needed to say yes. 
 
Not in the moment, mind. In the moment I couldn't tell if I needed to cry or find a bathroom. So I went and had the fit, and then I reached out again to confirm the contract. 
 
Your new life will cost you your old one. When you're standing at the edge, and it's time to drop the old weight that will enable you to climb to the next level, do you hold on to what you know? Or release and climb?
 
Our decisions in these moments shape our future. Drop me a comment and tell me what kind of decisions you're making in 2019 😊
 
Best,
Sarah xo

 

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This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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Earlier today I did a meditation, where I met and spoke to myself at various points in the future.
 
Future me has achieved everything I want to achieve and is effin awesome, if I do say so myself.
 
In addition, every future version of me had some incredible advice. I suspect it will also help some of you out there, so here it is.
 
2yrs into the future:
Future me is in LA with my best friend and we're strolling down the street on our way to get some eats.
(I look like I've taken up bodysculpting, which is excellent news because my best friend is a fitness model and hanging out with her can sometimes be a little 'confronting' in the aesthetics dept... 😉)
I interrupt this bolder, fitter, brighter version and she is so pleased to see me. She says:
"Sometimes you forget that the world is mirroring everything you think you are and everything you believe. So with that in mind, you need to have more fun. You need to relax, so that your world can reflect back to you that that's safe. Doing fun things, going on adventures and investing in yourself isn't 'spending', it's guaranteeing your success. Because it comes from a place of knowing you're infinitely guided and supported."
 
5yrs into the future:
I'm in my fabulous multi-storey mezzanine-levelled-to-h*ll beach house overlooking the ocean in Australia. Future me is upstairs getting ready for dinner but she sees me in the lounge admiring the view and rushes downstairs to give me a hug. She laughs at my reaction to the (completely OTT) house and says:
"Why do you seem surprised that you could have so much? The whole planet and everything it contains is just a humming ball of atoms - align with some fun ones and materialize some cool sh*t. You get so stuck on the 'how', but all the 'hows' are in the material world, and you know better than to mess with the finished product, when you could simply issue a new blueprint and watch it being built from the beach."
 
10yrs into the future:
I'm on a yacht. It's a great thing I got into body sculpting 9yrs ago because my 44yo body is rocking that bikini like it's her job. I think it might be. She comes inside to get some ice out of the freezer for more drinks and sees me standing there looking really pleased that there's a yacht in my future. She sees everything that's wrong with me (health-wise) and looks sympathetic. I admire her hair - sea salt was always my best styling tool. She touches my face and says:
"What you resist, persists. You only have these problems because you're trying so hard to get rid of them from a place of judgement. You think you're scouring away everything that's 'wrong' with you, but it was never wrong. It's just human. You were judged so harshly for every little thing that you learned you need 'fixing' around the clock. Your body is tired from all the correcting, love. Start caring."
 
20yrs into the future:
I'm in a stone villa in France. I'm sat at a beautiful table in my rustic kitchen, writing another book on another Mac. I'm dressed very chic, no doubt influenced by discovering Sezane sweaters recently. As I'm standing behind myself, watching her type, I hope I bought shares in that company. I sit down on the side of the table, in her peripheral vision. She looks less surprised but equally happy to see me. She sees me looking at the Mac and seems to know intuitively that the next thing I need to hear is about speaking up. She says:
"Just say it. The idea of the outrage is much worse than the reality. You will say things that are true, and people will be angry, and then it will be forgotten, and it won't really have mattered anyway, so what was all the fear and fuss about? The things you're learning are to be shared - education is for evolution. But everyone evolves at different speeds. Whoever needs to hear it, will. Whoever isn't ready, will troll. But you remain safe, and the reaction remains irrelevant. Just say it."
 
50yrs into the future.
I'm old, I'm in an armchair, I look very happy, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm surrounded by a lot of family or if it's because I have a cup of tea. I prize tea very highly and I'm pleased to see it's still a thing in 2069. Please note I'm referring to real tea - black, caffeinated, powerful. Not that weird lawn-water Americans think is tea. Future me smiles and says:
"The bad stuff was the most important part. We must break our hearts until they open, and I'm sorry yours was smashed so early, love. But you had to be very open to receive the volume of learning you're here for. You have so much to do, and be, and know, and there simply wouldn't have been room or time if you'd received the toughest lessons any later. You've often thought that being broken so young was the thing that got in the way... In fact, it is the only reason you can do any of this stuff. It wasn't a pain to get over, it was the most important part of your journey: it was the catalyst. But I have good news. Forgive me if I spoil the ending, but it all works out. Relax and enjoy the ride, love. It's going to be a truly phenomenal adventure."
 
I got a lot out of this meditation - I hope what I received was helpful for you too. 
All my love,
Sarah xo
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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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'You can't steer your life in the direction you want if you won't even admit you're in the driver's seat to begin with...'
-Me.

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This is something I talk to people about regularly. The way the universe works is 'jump or be pushed'. I am sheepishly embarrassed to admit I have waited to be pushed far too often in my past, so I don't take that risk anymore. Because the push is always more brutal than a simple decision would've been.. ?
 
You get little 'pebbles' along the journey letting you know something is or isn't right for you. You get a prod in a certain direction from time to time, and that prod doesn't always seem rational.
 
Most people don't listen to the pebbles. They justify ignoring it by saying things like 'I don't know how I would monetize it.' Or 'it's not a smart decision for me right now.' Or 'I'll do it someday, maybe when I have more money or the kids are grown.'
 
So then you get a brick. There's relationship strain. Your health is suffering. You haven't slept through the night in months, maybe over a year. There's a restructure and you get a drop in pay. But still you choose the safe option of staying with what you know, because you've never listened to your intuition before and you don't realize that it's trying to move you towards everything you've ever wanted.
 
You struggle on amongst the bricks. Maybe for years. You feel so tired and worn out that your true joys have been reduced to Friday night drinks and other coping mechanisms that take the lid off the pot but don't do anything to the heat source, threatening to boil it over at any moment.
 
Wanna know what 'trucks' have looked like in my life?
 
I lost loving relationships.
I collapsed and went blind in a sales meeting.
I copped a 90min tirade from a subordinate in my corporate job that left me shaken and numb.
I was thrown into a wall by my drug-addicted boyfriend and had to leave the country to be safe.
And most recently? I got a tumour.
 
I never like to be morbid, but the truth is, we genuinely don't know how long we've got.
 
I suspect all of you have seen (and largely ignored) the pebbles. Many of you will have taken a few bricks.
 
Please step out of the way of the oncoming trucks.
 
All love,
Sarah
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Think you can't afford to invest in yourself? Honey, you can't afford NOT to. How much money are you missing out on by not fulfilling your potential? What could your business be earning if you healed all of your blocks around money and receiving and started operating with authenticity and power? 
Every month that your business isn't making $10/20/30k is $10/20/30k you're costing yourself by not getting there.

Investment isn't what kills success. It's procrastination.

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The coaching blooper reel!! Here is a small collection that I was keeping in Notes of hilarious things that have actually been said in coaching calls with me over the last year. Special shout-out to my clients who are freakin' FABULOUS and hysterically funny. Love you all. 

.....

 

 

Oh ok.. um.. Sorry about my face..?

See!! You’re not a butt!!

I don’t wanna be a chin anymore!!

Turns out there were no fuckin’ fairies and it WAS a big deal.

Ok. So you made a mug with a dick handle and now you’re embarrassed.

Maybe your car wouldn’t be so beat up if you’d actually steer.

If you can’t go to the gym because you set your kitchen on fire, maybe you could try not doing that.

I’m not ‘blaming you’, I’m saying you’re literally still holding a lighter under the paper towels.

You have to stop texting douchebags.

My grandmother just got that vagina surgery. Getting old is no fun.

Stop calling me a flower - I have a PhD.

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Sometimes we say 'I HAVE to do this' or 'I HAVE to finish that..' as a way to pretend something is being imposed on us. This legitimizes rebellion and makes us feel like we're taking back control, when really we're just phucking ourselves over.

You don't HAVE to do squat. If you have a dream or a business or a family or a hobby or a passion you GET to work on / at / for it. You are lucky to have it, blessed to have found it and excited to be a part of it.

Stop with the 'put upon' language. You don't get to be a kickass legend and a victim at the same time. Choose the reality you want and run with it.

**Sips tea..**

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... or jump to: 2018
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I am currently using 3 different coaches, for different areas of my life, and on top of that I'm enrolled in a handful of Masterminds, to ensure my vibe and energetic minimums don't slip back to the comfort and complacency that my ego enjoys. My support is a critical investment, because procrastination, overwhelm and fear cost more than quality mentorship ever could. 
And yesterday I had a discovery call with another coach. 
 
I never turn down the opportunity to chat, because I don't believe in coincidence. If we fall into each other's orbit, there will be a reason, and I know I can trust my body to make the right decision. If it's a no, it's a no, and we're all professionals here - there'll be no hard feelings. 
 
BUT.. a yes often feels much worse than a no. And since I experienced the most uncomfortable yes of my life yesterday, I thought it would be worth a public post. Because a common misconception I've found, is that people think growth and progress looks like skipping through a tulip field while your PayPal notifications 'bing!' melodiously. 
 
In reality, it looks like your vagus nerve has been plucked like a guitar string, and you're wondering if there's time to exit the Zoom call before you vomit on the screen.
 
In the discovery call, we discussed some things that need work around attachment theory, complimentary energies, and expansion. Now, all of these things are constantly being worked on, but from different angles and viewpoints. And this particular coach brought a completely new perspective to the mix. One that would require an unprecedented level of bravery and release.
 
How did I know that this was going to be pivotal input that was worth the investment? 
I got sick. I got really sick. We reached the part of the discussion where it was time to choose between moving forward or falling back into what I knew, and my entire survival system went haywire. I had a vagal response, my head was aching, I was dizzy and I needed to breathe through some fairly intense nausea.
 
And here's why that was the best thing EVER:
 
I was not under threat. There were no tigers in my office at that time. No murderers at the door, no building on fire. 
And yet my system responded as though we were gunna die. Which means someone is... and it's not me. 
 
So who was it? 
 
Short answer: my story. My current understanding of who I am and what I'm capable of.
 
Our identities are made up of our survival meanings, our coping mechanisms and our experiences. It incorporates our models of reality, our emotional homes and our value and belief systems. As far as the nervous system is concerned, a threat to your identity is a threat to your life. This is why it's so uncomfortable to have your perceptions about what's possible rejected or corrected.
Case in point: If you've struggled with money your whole life, how much do you enjoy someone telling you that money is everywhere and super easy to receive, even without work? 
I bet some part of you wants to punt that person into the next neighbourhood.
 
Well, imagine that response on steroids. Imagine someone simultaneously questioned EVERYTHING about you and your world.
 
That's what I experienced, and that's why I needed to say yes. 
 
Not in the moment, mind. In the moment I couldn't tell if I needed to cry or find a bathroom. So I went and had the fit, and then I reached out again to confirm the contract. 
 
Your new life will cost you your old one. When you're standing at the edge, and it's time to drop the old weight that will enable you to climb to the next level, do you hold on to what you know? Or release and climb?
 
Our decisions in these moments shape our future. Drop me a comment and tell me what kind of decisions you're making in 2019 😊
 
Best,
Sarah xo

 

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This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
  • 77
This past week I received an application for coaching. After some discussion, I sent the person a booking link to choose a time for a discovery call (this is a complimentary coaching session where we do some digging into what the underlying issues are and what it would take to get the person where they're trying to go).
The applicant was displeased to see that I don't have any available times until March (as I write this, it's the middle of January). They decided they would forego the call, and try to find a coach who was available sooner.
 
Now, this isn't a problem for me. I have been operating a model of reality for some time that essentially says 'whoever needs me will find me', and therefore, soulmate clients have had me booked solid for the past couple of years. I have total faith that anyone who falls out of my orbit was not a good match, and is clearing space for another absolute legend. 
 
But it did make me think of something funny. And that is that you should never choose your coach (or your waxer, for that matter) based on them being available on demand. For a few reasons:
 
  1. An empty calendar is like an empty restaurant. It gives you an idea of the quality of the product being served. The only good reason I can think of that a coach would be freely available at the drop of a hat, is if they're very new. Now, if you're right at the start of your personal development journey and any level of support and accountability will make a difference, then by all means, take advantage of the beginner-pricing and rip into it. BUT... if you're trying to launch a business and you have real money riding on you moving forward quickly... then you need an experienced coach with proven results. And that person isn't going to jump when you snap your fingers.
  2. We choose coaches and mentors based on whether that person has achieved what we want to achieve, or is succeeding at something you're still struggling with. Generally, you would pick someone who's living some version of your ideal life - because they've obviously figured out how, and you want to learn. So.. ipso facto.. if the coach is living your ideal life, they won't be a slave to everyone who sends a msg to their social media accounts. They won't be prioritizing strangers over their own self care. They won't be taking whoever they can get as clients; they'll be choosing people they're excited about working with to bring projects to life that inspire and excite them. If a busy coach drops everything to prioritize you over sleep, dinner or toilet breaks, they're not living a life you want. That's a warning, not a bonus. 
So, my point is, choose your people for the right reasons. Learn from someone who's living a life you want, and succeeding at it, not someone who's so desperate for your business that they'll compromise their own boundaries for it. 
And for Christ's sake, choose a waxer who has repeat clientele.
 
Peace,
Sarah
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Earlier today I did a meditation, where I met and spoke to myself at various points in the future.
 
Future me has achieved everything I want to achieve and is effin awesome, if I do say so myself.
 
In addition, every future version of me had some incredible advice. I suspect it will also help some of you out there, so here it is.
 
2yrs into the future:
Future me is in LA with my best friend and we're strolling down the street on our way to get some eats.
(I look like I've taken up bodysculpting, which is excellent news because my best friend is a fitness model and hanging out with her can sometimes be a little 'confronting' in the aesthetics dept... 😉)
I interrupt this bolder, fitter, brighter version and she is so pleased to see me. She says:
"Sometimes you forget that the world is mirroring everything you think you are and everything you believe. So with that in mind, you need to have more fun. You need to relax, so that your world can reflect back to you that that's safe. Doing fun things, going on adventures and investing in yourself isn't 'spending', it's guaranteeing your success. Because it comes from a place of knowing you're infinitely guided and supported."
 
5yrs into the future:
I'm in my fabulous multi-storey mezzanine-levelled-to-h*ll beach house overlooking the ocean in Australia. Future me is upstairs getting ready for dinner but she sees me in the lounge admiring the view and rushes downstairs to give me a hug. She laughs at my reaction to the (completely OTT) house and says:
"Why do you seem surprised that you could have so much? The whole planet and everything it contains is just a humming ball of atoms - align with some fun ones and materialize some cool sh*t. You get so stuck on the 'how', but all the 'hows' are in the material world, and you know better than to mess with the finished product, when you could simply issue a new blueprint and watch it being built from the beach."
 
10yrs into the future:
I'm on a yacht. It's a great thing I got into body sculpting 9yrs ago because my 44yo body is rocking that bikini like it's her job. I think it might be. She comes inside to get some ice out of the freezer for more drinks and sees me standing there looking really pleased that there's a yacht in my future. She sees everything that's wrong with me (health-wise) and looks sympathetic. I admire her hair - sea salt was always my best styling tool. She touches my face and says:
"What you resist, persists. You only have these problems because you're trying so hard to get rid of them from a place of judgement. You think you're scouring away everything that's 'wrong' with you, but it was never wrong. It's just human. You were judged so harshly for every little thing that you learned you need 'fixing' around the clock. Your body is tired from all the correcting, love. Start caring."
 
20yrs into the future:
I'm in a stone villa in France. I'm sat at a beautiful table in my rustic kitchen, writing another book on another Mac. I'm dressed very chic, no doubt influenced by discovering Sezane sweaters recently. As I'm standing behind myself, watching her type, I hope I bought shares in that company. I sit down on the side of the table, in her peripheral vision. She looks less surprised but equally happy to see me. She sees me looking at the Mac and seems to know intuitively that the next thing I need to hear is about speaking up. She says:
"Just say it. The idea of the outrage is much worse than the reality. You will say things that are true, and people will be angry, and then it will be forgotten, and it won't really have mattered anyway, so what was all the fear and fuss about? The things you're learning are to be shared - education is for evolution. But everyone evolves at different speeds. Whoever needs to hear it, will. Whoever isn't ready, will troll. But you remain safe, and the reaction remains irrelevant. Just say it."
 
50yrs into the future.
I'm old, I'm in an armchair, I look very happy, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm surrounded by a lot of family or if it's because I have a cup of tea. I prize tea very highly and I'm pleased to see it's still a thing in 2069. Please note I'm referring to real tea - black, caffeinated, powerful. Not that weird lawn-water Americans think is tea. Future me smiles and says:
"The bad stuff was the most important part. We must break our hearts until they open, and I'm sorry yours was smashed so early, love. But you had to be very open to receive the volume of learning you're here for. You have so much to do, and be, and know, and there simply wouldn't have been room or time if you'd received the toughest lessons any later. You've often thought that being broken so young was the thing that got in the way... In fact, it is the only reason you can do any of this stuff. It wasn't a pain to get over, it was the most important part of your journey: it was the catalyst. But I have good news. Forgive me if I spoil the ending, but it all works out. Relax and enjoy the ride, love. It's going to be a truly phenomenal adventure."
 
I got a lot out of this meditation - I hope what I received was helpful for you too. 
All my love,
Sarah xo
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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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Yesterday I dropped USD$7000 (NZD$10200) on 2 new coaches for the first couple months of 2019. Some of my friends and family struggle with how much and how easily I spend on coaching and support for myself and the answer is important so I’m going to post it.

If you don’t like the movie that’s playing, you don’t try to paint over the big fabric screen at the front of the cinema. That’s obviously not the source of the image. You have to go into the back room and change the reel on the projector.

Same with your life.

Humans are just projectors. We create a reality that supports and reinforces our identity and beliefs.

Now, my life is pretty good. I only do what I want, I travel the world permanently and the people I coach are AMAZING. I am beyond blessed to be a part of the incredible things they want to create: A social enterprise that only employs the homeless. A thousands-strong march for children’s literacy. Support and literature for people dealing with food addiction. And many more.

But there are still things I want to do/be/create. And if I want to have/be/do them, I need to BE the person that does.

Everything is energy. I don’t need to slave to get money to buy things… I already am past the hourly-rate mindset. What I need to do is embody whoever I need to be to have a life that reflects that identity. And some of those identities are a long way from where I started.

The human nervous system is wired for survival. We can’t see our own blind spots, we’re naturally risk-averse and threats to our learned identity create psychological pain and survival patterns like procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm.

For me to be as successful as I need to be to help as many people as I want to help (clients, friends, and family), I need to always be on my game. It has to be me in charge of this vehicle; not any out-of-date programming, childhood fears or bad habits.

So what are you trying to create in your life that would benefit from support? If wealth is your goal, for example, where do you know your mindset is off because even though you feel like everything you know is ‘right’, you’re still not a millionaire…?

Put it this way: If you’re living all your dreams, continue on as you were. If you’re not, it’s time for a coach. And if you don’t think your dreams are worthy of investment, GET BIGGER DREAMS.

Peace xo

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'You can't steer your life in the direction you want if you won't even admit you're in the driver's seat to begin with...'
-Me.

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This is something I talk to people about regularly. The way the universe works is 'jump or be pushed'. I am sheepishly embarrassed to admit I have waited to be pushed far too often in my past, so I don't take that risk anymore. Because the push is always more brutal than a simple decision would've been.. ?
 
You get little 'pebbles' along the journey letting you know something is or isn't right for you. You get a prod in a certain direction from time to time, and that prod doesn't always seem rational.
 
Most people don't listen to the pebbles. They justify ignoring it by saying things like 'I don't know how I would monetize it.' Or 'it's not a smart decision for me right now.' Or 'I'll do it someday, maybe when I have more money or the kids are grown.'
 
So then you get a brick. There's relationship strain. Your health is suffering. You haven't slept through the night in months, maybe over a year. There's a restructure and you get a drop in pay. But still you choose the safe option of staying with what you know, because you've never listened to your intuition before and you don't realize that it's trying to move you towards everything you've ever wanted.
 
You struggle on amongst the bricks. Maybe for years. You feel so tired and worn out that your true joys have been reduced to Friday night drinks and other coping mechanisms that take the lid off the pot but don't do anything to the heat source, threatening to boil it over at any moment.
 
Wanna know what 'trucks' have looked like in my life?
 
I lost loving relationships.
I collapsed and went blind in a sales meeting.
I copped a 90min tirade from a subordinate in my corporate job that left me shaken and numb.
I was thrown into a wall by my drug-addicted boyfriend and had to leave the country to be safe.
And most recently? I got a tumour.
 
I never like to be morbid, but the truth is, we genuinely don't know how long we've got.
 
I suspect all of you have seen (and largely ignored) the pebbles. Many of you will have taken a few bricks.
 
Please step out of the way of the oncoming trucks.
 
All love,
Sarah
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Think you can't afford to invest in yourself? Honey, you can't afford NOT to. How much money are you missing out on by not fulfilling your potential? What could your business be earning if you healed all of your blocks around money and receiving and started operating with authenticity and power? 
Every month that your business isn't making $10/20/30k is $10/20/30k you're costing yourself by not getting there.

Investment isn't what kills success. It's procrastination.

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The coaching blooper reel!! Here is a small collection that I was keeping in Notes of hilarious things that have actually been said in coaching calls with me over the last year. Special shout-out to my clients who are freakin' FABULOUS and hysterically funny. Love you all. 

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Oh ok.. um.. Sorry about my face..?

See!! You’re not a butt!!

I don’t wanna be a chin anymore!!

Turns out there were no fuckin’ fairies and it WAS a big deal.

Ok. So you made a mug with a dick handle and now you’re embarrassed.

Maybe your car wouldn’t be so beat up if you’d actually steer.

If you can’t go to the gym because you set your kitchen on fire, maybe you could try not doing that.

I’m not ‘blaming you’, I’m saying you’re literally still holding a lighter under the paper towels.

You have to stop texting douchebags.

My grandmother just got that vagina surgery. Getting old is no fun.

Stop calling me a flower - I have a PhD.

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Sometimes we say 'I HAVE to do this' or 'I HAVE to finish that..' as a way to pretend something is being imposed on us. This legitimizes rebellion and makes us feel like we're taking back control, when really we're just phucking ourselves over.

You don't HAVE to do squat. If you have a dream or a business or a family or a hobby or a passion you GET to work on / at / for it. You are lucky to have it, blessed to have found it and excited to be a part of it.

Stop with the 'put upon' language. You don't get to be a kickass legend and a victim at the same time. Choose the reality you want and run with it.

**Sips tea..**

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